(Closed) May have to terminate pregnancy !!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 136
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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gpsp2B:  late term abortions are legal for medical reasons in certain states. Other states do not have a specified cutoff gestational age. She isn’t delaying on purpose she is waiting to results to make an informed decision. 

Post # 137
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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MrsWBS:  her posts give the impression she has already made a decision. my understanding is its only legal past viability when it’s a situation where the mothers life is in danger, and that doesn’t seem to be the case here. 

Post # 141
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Busy bee

Ugh. Just read your post. I don’t have any advice. Just wanted to send you some virtual hugs. Sounds like this is a difficult time for you and your family. I’m hoping for the best for you.

*hugs*

Post # 142
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - mountain barn

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MrsWBS:  No, not all live with family. In fact, the majority of those that I know come from group home situations. I have worked and volunteered in many of these types of places over the years. My family even runs a few homes as well. I have never seen anyone miserable in them. They go out to movies, to shopping trips, some have jobs they hold down, camps, dances, you name it. The mission of a home is to help the person learn the necessary skills to have the most normal life and the best life they can. If I were working in one as you were that was poor and treating their residents as horrifically as you claimed I would have stayed around and tried to make things better for these individuals, not threw my hands up and quit. People with disablilities need people to stand up for them and be their voice because yes, there are bad places out there. It is my experience that the case of a poor existence you seem to convey of a downs syndrome individual in a home simply is not true, but we all have our opinions. 

Post # 143
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Helper bee

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DiamondnLovey:  

This decision is between you, your husband and your doctors who should only have an advisory function. Please do not let anybody pressure you. It’s your body and your life. You know best what you can and cannot handle. I am sorry that you have to go through this, and I wish you strength and wisdom regardless of your decision.

Post # 144
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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DiamondnLovey:  I think I know which hospital they are sending you to.  Its a great maternity hospital and takes on a lot of high risk births.  They have great resources there for you.  I hope you’re able to tap into them.  And I truly hope this is all for nothing. 

Post # 145
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Helper bee

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andielovesj:  

Thank you! Excellent post with factual information that is much needed by those droning on and on about how disabled children and parents can lead the happiest, sunniest, rosiest of lives. Empirical evidence is flawed and highly selective, and it’s very likely that their personal reference frame only includes high-functioning persons. Down syndrome occurs on a spectrum, and symptoms may range from very mild to extremely severe. The other thing to consider is that virtually all persons suffering from Down syndrome, regardless of severity, will develop Alzheimer’s disease after age 40. Unfortunately, people are often so blinded by ideology that all the facts and scientific knowledge in the world cannot reach them or change their minds.

The decision to terminate a pregnancy, or not, must be left to the individual and her partner. It’s a heartbreaking choice in any situation, and she really doesn’t need people “begging her not to kill her child”.

Post # 146
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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DiamondnLovey:  First off I am so sorry you are going through the stress of this. Pregnancy should be a happy time. While not exactly the same at my 20 week scan a spot was found on the heart of our baby. We were told it was a marker for chromosonal abnormalities (downs syndrome being one of those) and we were sent to a specialist. It was so stressful not knowing what could be wrong and having to discuss what we would do with the results. Those weeks of waiting were awful. The decision is so personal and I know it can be a challenging one to make and different for everyone. My husband and I were lucky in that we got positive results from the testing and it ended up being nothing and I am now 30 weeks pregnant and all signs are our little girl is healthy. I hope you recieve positive results as well!

Post # 147
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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andielovesj:  thank you for posting that. Everytime I saw someone post that they “know someone with Down’s and they are the happiest person they know” all I could think was that person must be high functioning and not have any health issues stemming from Down’s. Also, people with Down’s forever maintain the mindset of a child and how many children do you know that aren’t happy?!

I personally know someone with Down’s who is very high functioning and yes, he’s always happy…because he is basically a 10 year old forever. He doesn’t have the worries of an adult even though he is one. But I look at his mother and she’s getting older and she still has to do everything for him. And when she passes, one of the siblings will have to take on the responsibility because he’s too high functioning to go into a home.

OP, Taking care of a special needs child is a life long commitment and not everyone can handle it and I applaud people who can willing admit that and be secure in their decision. Hopefully, you won’t have to make that difficult decision and the tests come back with a perfectly healthy baby.

Post # 150
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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DiamondnLovey:  I have only heard good things.  🙂  I’m glad you’re receiving such great care.  I’ve got everything crossed for you and your babe.  

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