Post # 1
I’m one of the few in my circle of friends that hasn’t married yet. Girls night keeps getting more difficult as each friend marries or gets serious with their BsF. Is it just me, but is it normal for women to have to ask husbands or BF to go out? Is being married mean you can’t go out anymore with your friends.
I don’t have that issue with my guy, but i find it distrubing i keep hearing …let me see if my husband says its ok with him or my BF doesn’t want me to go out. It just sounds possessive to me.
Post # 3
@Ms.BlueEyes: I can see where it can seem like that or even be that way in particular relationships. I had this issue in the beginning of my relationship with my now former Fiance (he would make decisions without me). He eventually grew up a bit and came around, lol.
The way I see it, it’s not asking for permission so much as respecting their preference or, really, just being plain ol’ considerate of the other person’s feelings.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
I don’t think I would ask permission per se, but I would let Mr. Aardvark know before I went out. I may phrase it as a question… but I can’t imagine him saying “no” or what I would do if he did say no for that matter!
It’s more just a hey, this is what I am doing fyi thing.
Post # 5
I will give my husband a heads up if I make plans, but I don’t ask. Sometimes I will check first if it’s a weekend night because sometimes we may have plans together that I could have forgotten about.
Post # 6
I ask my DH but its not so much a permission thing as a being considerate thing. My DH does say “No” once in awhile but its usually during the weeks I try to go out three nights in a row or forget we’re supposed to go to dinner with his parents. He deserves me time too so I usually respect his wishes when we have a conflict.
Post # 7
I don’t think of it as ‘asking for permition’ it’s more like, let me check if he doesn’t have plans for us already, that has happened.
Post # 8
I don’t ask Mr. Hedgie for permission. I do ask just to make sure there wasn’t anything already planned that I didn’t know about/ remember.