(Closed) May I choose the size of the rock?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 60
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Dare I recommend looking into a moissanite or amora gem instead? You can get the size sto e you want and he won’t have to pay more than he’s comfortable with. Or you could sacrifice color, clarity, cut etc.. to get your “atleast one carat diamond” for the same price as a great quality .50 carat, since size is so important to you. 

Post # 61
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

OP, I don’t see a problem with wanting/hoping for a certain size/size range. I’m sure most of the ladies here had ideas regarding their future rings – about ring specifics, such as type of stone, size of stone, type of setting, style, type of metal, etc. We all do. Hoping for a certain carat size (within reason) isn’t really any different than that. Plus, a 1 carat stone isn’t something so absurb or unreasonable. I get what you’re saying. But I think you’ll probably have to chip in the difference because it sounds like he’s pretty stuck on what he wants to spend. Any chance you two can compromise?  Good luck!

Post # 62
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Helper bee

I was in a similar situation (0.9 vs 1). I eventually agreed. I did everything I could to find the ring that would fit his budget – research and arrange for a tax back and I bought the wedding bands. In the end, I got the ring I want and he was only about $500 over. 

My point is that you need to find a way so you can have what you want within the limits of what he wants to spend. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  lilafowler.
Post # 63
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

visitor:  why are you asking a board of strangers if you can choose the size of your stone when the person who can actually answer that has already said no? He has clearly expressed what he’s willing to purchase in regards to a stone and its size. If that’s not good enough than you should reconsider how much you want to marry this man. If a ring is more important than the proposal I would say that’s a problem. I also would consider it a problem that you think that the purchase of a ring is more important than money for a home. smh…

Post # 64
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

15 houses LOL.  My husband has 65,000 houses so there.  *eyeroll*

Post # 65
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Bumble bee

visitor:  

Normally, I say “NO”…keep your mouth shut and be grateful for what you get…BUT…

I don’t think asking for a 1 carat is THAT big of a deal…(assuming he can easily afford it)…particularly if you are willing to sacrafice on cut, clarity, color…if you wanted bigger than a carat, my opinion changes…

 

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

ct2015:  OP said at least a 1 ct. Which meants thats the smallest she is willing to accept. 

Post # 67
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33 posts
Newbee

visitor:  

Not to be rude, but if you guys already talked about it and don’t agree I would move on and be happy with what you get. It gives off the impression that you’re more concerned about the ring…

Post # 68
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Bumble bee

milabeehappy:  

Yeah, but I just looked on BlueNile…you can get a carat for a little over $3000…I don’t think that is an unreasonable amount to spend on something you will wear the rest of your life. I know this board is big on diamond “alternatives”, but I am older and I never heard of that before this website.

She also isn’t saying it has to be a “perfect” diamond…she just wants a 1 carat diamond…look how much people spend on dresses…I know i am in a boat on my own, but as far as our wedding expenses go, I would rather have a ring I love than a fancy dress or big wedding…everyone prioritizes differently.

Post # 70
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Bumble bee

Also – who is paying for the wedding? If he is paying, I can understand he needs to budget carefully, but if her family is paying – he can step up to the plate with a one carat diamond.

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Post # 74
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Sugar bee

Now it is getting shut down. 

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