(Closed) May Sound Silly…But Does Your FI Have to Like Your Dress?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Does your FI's opinion matters when you buy your wedding dress?
    yes, it's important to consider his opinion. : (26 votes)
    26 %
    no, you should wear whatever you want regardless of what he thinks : (22 votes)
    22 %
    take it into consideration...you may change your mind but still find something that pleases you. : (52 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    My fiance has told me he doesn’t like tulle or ‘wispy’ dresses. Basically he doesn’t want me to look like a hippy. That’s not really my style anyway, so no big deal.  

    Post # 32
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    Sugar bee

    Considering my Fiance can’t tell the difference between a skirt and a dress… My philosophy on my wedding dress is… If I am wearing it, he will like it.

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - Estates of Sunnybrook - McLean House

    KitSnicket:  Hmm I think you misread it…. OP posted ““well make sure it’s not something that is not your style.”” 

    Post # 34
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    492 posts
    Helper bee

    When I went shopping I wanted to pick a dress that I think my Fiance would like but he is not all too picky – other than hating ball gowns. But he said that he was sure I would look beautiful no matter what I decided to go with. I picked the dress that I loved most and I also thought he would like. I had him guess what he thought my dress would look like and he was spot on even though I have never shown him or told him about what it looks like. So it worked out!

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - Estates of Sunnybrook - McLean House

    Eirene00:  I went with what I wanted in mind and  when it came down to it….it was between two styles… When I first showed my Fiance samples of dresses (not mine) he would say this one loooks good.. this one not so much.. I got a sense of what he liked…but at the end of the day he loves whatever I choose, because I would only get what I feel great in. And when it came down to two dresses… 2 different styles… I knew which one to choose from the 2 because I knew which one would make him smile and blush when he saw me 

    Post # 36
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    Sugar bee

    I think that everyone will have their own opinion on this. To me, it was so important that Fiance love the dress I wear. Of course I know he will think I’m beautiful no matter what, but I definitely took his opinion into consideration when dress shopping. Luckily our ideas about “the dress” were the same. Can’t wait for him to see what I picked! 🙂 

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Saint Domingue

    Eirene00:  Doesn’t sound like a rude comment to me.  Sounds like he knows your style and appreciates it.  

    I can pretty much predict what my fiancé will say about my gown: “It’s so YOU.”  

    My fiancé could care less what style, color, silhouette, etc gown I purchased, but I DO know he entirely anticipates I’ve picked something I love.  He very much appreciated my sense of style and compliments me on my choice of clothing a lot and I’m thinking perhaps your fiancé may feel the same way about you and doesn’t want you to feel you need to choose something to please anyone else but you.  

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Honestly, I didn’t even consider whether he’d like it. Im the one wearing it and I genuinely don’t think he’s bothered so long as I’m happy in it. I have major self confidence issues and my priority was finding something that made me feel right, not pleasing anyone else.

    I’m not saying it’s wrong for you to take your partners tastes into consideration but I wouldn’t let my man tell me what style to wear any other day so why do it on the biggest day of my life? Honestly, I think if Fiance picked for me he would have gone for something very fitted but guess what? I would hate that so it’s not happening.

    Please wear what makes you happy and do it for yourself. I’m sure when Fiance sees you on the day, he will be floored whatever you choose.

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee

    Eirene00:  “well make sure it’s not something that is not your style”

    Okay so I don’t think that was a bad thing to say just poorly worded! See, if my OH said this to me, I wouldn’t be at all offended. (Note he semi helped me pick my dress) however the reason I wouldn’t be offended is because I work in the fashion world and one of the main things he noticed about me at first was my style. He appreciates that I generally wear very flattering, fashionable, things and take pride in how I dress. He is constantly commenting how stylish I am and how nice I look.

    So, when I was dress shopping, I would send him photos of dresses (not on me of course) he would say “ultimtely I would be happy in anything you’d wear, but I think X, dress would look better on you and be more your style!” 

    So IMO you’re guy was just trying to give you a complementand it just came off kinda prickish. I wouldn’t sweat it, I’m sure he’d love anything you pick and trust me, no matter what you’ll have the WOW factor on him! 😀

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    Before he even proposed, Darling Husband had opinions on what kind of dress I should wear, basically giant strapless satin ballgowns with heavy colored embroidery and/or beading that would overwhelm me. I told him as much and he was like, “At least try this one on when you go with MOH!” 

    I tried it on, and as expected, it was the worst dress ever, haha! 

    Most men don’t know anything about women’s fashion. So don’t worry about it and wear what you want! He’ll think you’re beautiful either way. 

    Post # 42
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    My FH admitted “I had to use your iPad and saw a page of dresses” (at least not the one I got- I hope). His exact words were “they all looked the same to me”. So I’m not too concerned, and unless your FH has mentioned specific silhouettes/necklines as other bees have said, I wouldn’t worry. Odds are he’ll be stunned no matter what you’re wearing (at least that should be the hope). I wouldn’t worry. Go for something you love and that you feel confident and amazing in. 

    Post # 43
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Eirene00:  I was definitely more with the “he better like it” mindset, but only because I was also pretty sure that he would like whatever i picked. Then I wanted to make sure he would be happy at being surprised so I started showing him dresses that were somewhat close to what I was thinking of. He actually hasn’t liked anything I have shown him!  ugghh! He is sooo picky when it comes to stuff like this. I would describe my style more as “classic” —he is into polo and jordans (i know right). i will try a few more because i would hate to read his face on that day and see “eww”, but i also would feel horrible if he loved the dress and i felt ugly. i think i will just figure out what details are important to him by asking extreme questions, such as:

    1. Bling or no bling?

    2. White or is ivory or even champagne ok?

    3. Ball gown or close-fitting mirmaid?

    4. Any materials you absolutely hate? (I am reading a lot recently that some folks think satin looks cheap. I dont really think so, i just think on certain dresses it may).

    *The ony positives I have found is that he prefers a long dress, and not a short or high-low dress, but i think that’s pracitically everyone! 

     

    Hope it helps. 

    Post # 44
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    gingerlove89:  Oh, I also want to say that your FI’s comment about making sure the dress is your style may have been a compliment (in my opinon, though I dont know him). Maybe there are people you are close to that are very opinionated and that you are easily swayed by, and he wants you to dress you, not a relative. just a suggestion.

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee

    I think the most important thing is that you like it and you feel comfortable. You are the one who is wearing it and you are the one who quite possibly has dreamed about the sort of dress you will wear for your wedding for some time. My fiance hates lace, and he hates a lot of the details that I really love. I know exactly the sort of dress he would love to see me in, and I do like it, though its plainer than I had in mind. Still, I do think its very bridal and beautiful, so im going to try it and see how I feel in it. Maybe when I see it on I’ll like it more than the ones that are my current favourites. If its not me though, Im not going to get it just because its what he likes (or thinks he does based on a few photos, with no real idea of what an actual non model person looks like in it).

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