Post # 1
Hello Buzzing Bees –
I have somewhat of a strange question to ask and when I did I search I didnt see anything specific to this topic sooooooooooooo here we go.
Detailed version: My fiancée and I were scheduled to get married in Brazil next month. Not to drill too far down into the details, we basically got ripped off and lost about $4k. SO we took a couple of months to heal from the disaster and pushed our wedding out to April 2015 and decided to keep it local (DC area). We found an absolutely AMAZING venue in the heart of DC and it is COMPLETELY different than the original venue we were having our party at. The new venue is super modern, chic and funky and I don’t know if my dress goes well with it.
I cringe to even type that but every time I look at pictures of myself in my dress and pictures of the venue, I don’t like the two paired together. I also feel like I want a new dress because the one I currently have reminds me of the shitty experience.
Has anyone else ever felt like this? Am I being absolutely ridiculous, self-absorbed and almost boarding the line of stupid? I have thick skin so give it to me straight.
Here are pics of this amazing spot and pictures of me in my dress. Oh and if ceremony location factors into your opinion, our ceremony will be outside, probably at a national park or something along those lines.
Post # 2
If your current dress has bad vibes for you, and if budget allows, get a new dress! Your venue is neat, I love it!!
Post # 3
CocoClassic: Agreed with PP, however, I think it totally works. Your dress is classic and elegant. It would go anywhere.
Post # 4
You venue is cool. I am not sure why your current dress wouldn’t go, but if you want something different and can afford it, go for it. I think a sleek sheath dress would work well in that setting.
Post # 5
I think that your current dress works well with the new venue!
You could alter it a little to add some of the modern angle to it by chosing a different belt and maybe adding a pop of red in a hairpiece?
Post # 6
I actually think your current dress matches the venue super well–all the diagonal lines on the dress jive with the super modern lines of the venue. What I would suggest is adding a pop of the red to your dress somewhere, like on the sash or in a headpiece, and then it’ll pull it together super well!
But, if you want a new dress, there’s no reason not to go for it if you can afford it 🙂 I think you look stunning already, though!
Post # 7
CocoClassic: Oh girl, no, the dress is PERFECT for your venue! The lines on the bodice are VERY modern! I LOVE the two together!
Post # 8
I think your dress is elegant is sophisticated, just like the venue you’ve chosen. Strictly talking of style and aesthetics, I think both would look gorgeous together. However, I can understand why you feel that way about your dress. All I can advise is for you to take some time to plan your new wedding and see what happens from that on. Maybe this new, positive process will bring you at peace with your dress – maybe it won’t. Then you still have time to shop for the dress. But that’s just me … I tend to be very rational on most aspects of planning. From an outsider’s perspective (and a frugal one), I see it as, you’ll lose more than 4K actually if you end up not wearing that dress at all … but, one could also argue I don’t know your budget and maybe it’s not that much of a deal, and you can also sell that dress which is a good compromise for you to get a dress you’ll love and won’t associate anything negative to. You know best ! Just think things through. 🙂
Post # 9
CocoClassic: I seriously love your dress. So much so, that I’d like to know the name of the designer — the clean lines are amazing! I’d like to look at it when I go wedding dress shopping this summer 🙂 It’s timeless and goes beautifully with your venue. Not to mention that it fits your body like it was made for it!
I’d totally keep it.
Post # 10
CocoClassic: Hello to a fellow DC area bride! I don’t think you’re being “absolutely ridiculous, self-absorbed and almost boarding the line of stupid” at all and I’m so sorry for you got ripped off, but I’m happy to hear you’ve found a new venue and it looks awesome.
I voted for getting a new one soley based on you saying that it reminds you of this bad experience, and no one should have bad feelings attached to their wedding dress. However, I think your current dress is beautiful and you look fantastic in it! It totally goes with the venue in my opinion- modern and very chic.
Post # 11
I dont know about “bad vibes” per se but seeing as I went thru SO MUCH to find this dress (tha’ts a whole ‘notha topic. UGH!) and then wedding postponing, maybe I should just donate it to Brides Against Breast Cancer and shop for something new.
Classic and elegant… Hmmm I wouldnt use those two words to describe it so thanks for that.
I saw a lace sheath with a low back and front that I love and I think it would be so modern and work perfectly with the venue but not my ridiculously loud AMAZING shoes.
Dress I’m seriously admiring:
My amazing shoes:
A friend of mine mentioned making the dress and/or my look more modern but I’m like HOW!?!?! UGH! I keep going back and forth and I HATE that because I’m a very decisive woman and feeling this wishy-washy is leaving me a little hair-brained…
Post # 12
Thank you so much. I was going to do a nice loose bun, blunt bangs, cat eye and red lip – is that bold/modern enough? I feel absolutely ridiculous questioning this dress considering the serious trial I had to find it. I just want it all to be absolutely beautiful.
Thank you for your input. Its is super helpful to get the perspective of strangers because they see what you cannot and arent worried about being nice lol.
Insightful and logical response – thank you. I didnt even consider the fact that we would be losing almost $6k if I got another dress and I know Fiance wouldnt be too happy with that BUT I’m not asking for any contribution – this would be my sole expense. Thinking about this over and over again is making me a bit crazy because there are too many choices I could make but am I making the right one?
Thank you so much – very kind of you to say! Its a Sincerity dress that was discontinued and I found that out 3 months after I ordered it! 2 dress and 2 deposits later (both thankfully refunded) I went the hunt for this dress. I figured if absolutely nobody had it, I couldnt put my dreams of it to bed once and for all and after phone call 6 or 7, I found it at a boutique in DE!
Thank you for that. I know I keep saying I feel ridiculous asking this question and I seriously do. I just want to be done with is but I also want to be satisfied in the end. Maybe I need to put my dress on at the actual venue and see how I feel? lol. Ok NOW I’m being ridiculous!
Post # 13
CocoClassic: I think everything you’ve described will be FANTASTIC. Honestly, I know that ruching doesn’t always seem “structural” enough to be super modern, but the way your dress fits you and the way the ruching falls makes it look super architectural and sharp. I honestly think your first dress suits the venue much more than your second, and I think it’ll look increeeeeedible! 🙂
Post # 14
Hi! I actually went through a similar situation with my dress (after having much dress regret, I’m so happy I chose it). I’m getting married at a venue like yours (brick walls, artistic, loft type of space) and bought a dress just like yours – simple and beautiful. I found that a simple dress is better for a venue with so much character. You look amazing in your dress and it definitely works – I’d stick with it!
Post # 15
I think your current dress works perfectly with your new venue- better in fact, than your proposed lace dress, which has a very romantic, ethereal feel.