Post # 1
Sorry im just feeling alittle down today. from my earlier post i have talked about the issues between my bridesmaids. i have spoken to both of them and they seem that they are willing to work together which i am really happy about.
The issue i that one of my bridesmaids has always been flaky. She would only really contact me every 2-3 months. I am the type of friend that likes to be involved in my friends life and them in mine. i was bridesmaid for her and she didnt let me be involved in anything apart from my dress. She got married approx 6 months and maybe have spoken to her approx 3 times. I know my wedding isnt untill may but i cant help but feel upset.
Am i being unreasonable
Post # 3
I think if you know a friend is flaky you can’t expect them to change that just because you’re getting married. My best friend is like that. She can still be my best friend though I don’t necessarily talk to her every single day because when we do talk we are just on the same wavelength. It’s like she’s my sister…and lol she will be my sister-in-law, go figure.
I think you need to just deal with it at this point. Sorry that’s not probably good advice.
Post # 5
@trinity_542: “I am the type of friend that likes to be involved in my friends life and them in mine.”
Here’s your problem. Just because you are that kind of person, doesn’t mean everybody else is. You are projecting how you would handle something onto someone else and are obviously going to be disappointed by that.
Post # 6
mmmmm never though of it that way thank you
Post # 7
I don’t think you’re unreasonable, I think that you might have a good acquaintance on your hands, not a friend to the extent of what you feel you need/want. ‘Firing’ her at this point would be a true relationship killer so you need to decide what is more important – having a stress free (ya right!) wedding process or having her stand there with you.