(Closed) They will never accept me as his wife as long as his ex is around

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wait? Where did it go??

 

ETA: Now I see it again. Weird…

Post # 4
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OK this is ridiculous. WHY will your fiance not stand up for you!? I’m still going through all your old posts, but MAN is his family ridiculous! I don’t even have words right now. :/

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ok so this is what I am wondering…

How do you know what is going on? Who is telling you about the discussions and emails between the ex and the inlaws?

I think your fiance has a point, he can stick up for you if he hears ANYTHING bad, but he can’t really dictate who they can be friends with. However, for Mr. A’s sons best interest, and your daughters, it is best they act civilized towards you. That should be mandatory. Even behind your back, and everything needs to stop, now.

Post # 8
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ugh who even knows! How long were they divorced before you met again? People are so crazy sometimes.

And why are they still friends with her if everything ended on such bad terms, anyway?? What did Mr. A “do” to piss them off??

Post # 11
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: I am so sorry.. I can relate and it can make you crazy..  My husbands ex that he had a baby with when they were 16. The relationship was 11+ yrs ago and I still feel like his mother would prefer her with him than me.. It sucks, and hurts.. You just want his family to be accepting becasue you know you want to spend the rest of your life with him. You have to be strong, I held out for going on 10 yrs and still strong..  Excuse my language but you have to have a F *** you attitude at some point.. Dont’ pay no mind to his mother (trust me I know its hard) especially if she’s being childish its going to be hard to ignore.. Just stick it out and sit down and talk with  Mr. A… Relax, stay strong  and make them realize you aint going nowhere so get used to it!! This is coming from a girl who has accomplished this herself..  His fam knows I aint going nowhere and that if they want to see him, they better accept the fact that I’m his wife.. If he won’t stick up for you with this, you may need to reconsider.. You need to have someone in your corner, or you will go nuts.. Good Luck..

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@SoontobeMrsA: OMG! We are in the same boat in some ways. DH’s ex is really close with his family and his Mom is still friends with the ex on facebook. We actually don’t even talk to his Mom anymore now, but it took months of Darling Husband and I arguing about it and me begging him to stand up for us. It was the only wrench we had in our relationship and I’m so glad it’s over now and we’re happy. Mr.A needs to defend you! 

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I know exactly how angry you are right now. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think they are honestly trying to break you guys apart. for whatever reason. It probably stems from some kind of jelousy or resentment. maybe because you are a great mom, and a great person, and they aren’t. Honestly. People have issues with good hearted people, if they aren’t themselves.

I can only suggest this, do not let them get between you. Do not let their misery become yours. Hold your head up high, and let them talk smack, and be the nicest person you can be, for you, for Mr. A, and for the children.

Also, tell Mr. A that if he recieves emails that are derogatory against you, then he should tell his family he will block them on email, because he, nor you, has time for these childish games.

Be above all the drama, and the insanity. You cannot control their misery, jelousy, resentment, craziness… You can only control yours.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ugh seriously i thought this whole thing was getting better.  Mr. A can TOO tell his family to cut the shit and stop talking to her.  She is the EX WIFE not his current fiance.  I seriously don’t get it, you’re so nice and they continue to screw with you. I’m so sorry this is happening to you! ((HUGS))

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