(Closed) Maybe I’m delusional (posted on another board…hopefully people are nicer here)

posted 2 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
Member
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I think it’s a possibility, but I wouldn’t get your hopes up and expect it.  Then you may get upset and not enjoy the trip!  I know it’s definitely hard waiting just try and focus on spending time together and if he doesn’t ok the trip maybe a few weeks after the trip just have a calm (not finger pointing or demanding) discussion about the timeline of your relationship so you know what to expect! Good luck! 

Post # 3
Member
776 posts
Busy bee

Expectation is the mother of disappointment!  Just don’t  overthink. Go and enjoy yoursrlf!

Post # 4
Member
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

 Ummm……this is all one board. Just because you post in a different subsection doesn’t mean the same people won’t see it and comment on it.

Post # 6
Member
322 posts
Helper bee

lunbee1227 :  People weren’t trying to mean in that last thread. I think they were just being honest about you potentially setting yoirself up for disappointment. 

It sounds like you and your boyfriend have lots of time to get engaged. You are still finishing a master’s degree. Just enjoy each other! Life’s about the journey and all that jazz. You’re going on a romantic vacation at a ski lodge! That is so fun, just enjoy it for what it is. When you get close to graduation, revisit the engagement time line talks if he hasn’t proposed yet. Then you can enjoy being engaged with the headache of schooling behind you.

Post # 7
Member
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

lunbee1227 :  no need to apologize just wanted to make sure that you knew all new posts appear on a main feed for all of the wedding bee boards

Post # 8
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee

Speaking from my own experience – I encourage you to not get your hopes up. Your story mimics what happened to me this past September. Sometimes our SO’s just like to spoil us! My advice is to not overthink it and enjoy your trip! 🙂

Post # 9
Member
8541 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

lunbee1227 :  I just read the other post. Nobody was being mean or acting like you’re psycho. They were suggesting that you take your boyfriend at his word. That seems like sound advice. I know you really really want him to propose on this trip, and sure there is some small possibility that he is deliberately deceiving you and does plan to propose, but if you go in expecting that, you are likely to end up disappointed. We don’t want you to be disappointed, which is why everyone is advising you to dial back your expectations and believe what he is saying.

Post # 10
Member
928 posts
Busy bee

lunbee1227 :  

I think it is a good idea to take someone at their word when they say they aren’t ready for engagement or marriage, as a rule. It manages expectations. The last thing you want to do is “hear” something that isn’t said because it is what you want to hear or how you want to interpret something.  Communication is important – that means not only expressing yourself, but correctly interpreting what your partner is saying/showing/demonstrating to you.

I agree that signs may indicate a proposal is in the works if you two have a healthy relationship and have talked about it at length in the past.  It’s also equally possible that he wants to give you a special trip and gift jewelry, (but not necessarily an engagement ring) because there is now physical distance between you and he is trying to be extra sweet to make up for that distance.

Post # 11
Hostess
9303 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle

Closing for duplicate post

The topic ‘Maybe I’m delusional (posted on another board…hopefully people are nicer here)’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors