(Closed) Maybe it's a good thing he doesn't want to move in yet?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is it a good thing he doesn't want to move in?
    Yes! Sounds like he's taking it seriously! : (15 votes)
    50 %
    No! He just doesn't want to commit! : (8 votes)
    27 %
    Maybe? I JUST DON'T KNOW! : (7 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It sounds like he is committed to you and it just trying to do the smart thing for himself. It’s important that he does what is right for him in your relationship and not jump to anything too fast. Take a deep breath, all will work out just fine.


    Post # 4
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It sounds like he wants to take things slower than you do. IMO, 8 months is too soon to move in together or get engaged. Don’t pressure him or rush it, just enjoy things! I don’t think you need to worry that he isn’t serious about you, as most men would probably feel that it’s too soon to live together, even if they are happy in the relationship. If it’s been 2 years and he doesn’t want to move in because he says he’s not ready, then that’s a different story. But also, I wouldn’t get your hopes up that he’s secretly planning to propose and that’s why he doesn’t want to move in… (sorry to be the party pooper)

    Post # 5
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    It sounds like he just doesn’t want to move in together just yet.  My fiance didn’t want to move in together till we had dated for at least a year.  Him telling you is a lot better than him just letting you move in and not wanting you to.

    Post # 6
    2130 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I just think he’s not ready to take that step of moving in yet, but I don’t think that means he’s not into you. I agree with RunnerBride13 , now if it’s been 2 years then that is a different story. Don’t worry, keep enjoying your relationship living separately  🙂

    Post # 7
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    he is def doing the right thing,he is being honest and going with how he feels.

    im 41 and seen it all with couples,my self included.this is jmo,but you have not been a couple long enough to move in together,if you did you could very well rush and it could end before you know it.you maybe serious,but you both need time to grow and learn about each other and sometimes that can take a couple of years,not in 8 months.

    i know people do it all the time and very few make it until death do they part,but many who do in such a short time of knowing and being together and rush everything usually end up separated quite a few years down the road.i think your Fiance knows this and is being very smart.

    dont feel hurt because if he cares and loves you that will just continue to grow and get stronger as time goes on,and when he is ready to propose and marry you it will be because he is ready to spend his life with you and for no other reason,and that is when couples can usually count on the until death do you part.


    i dont ever think a girl should pressure a guy or keep hinting to the guy they want to get married because a guy will do it when he is ready,on his own.if he feels pressured or doing it only to make her happy if he is not ready,it usually doesnt end well and sometimes they both relize it when it to late,children are involved and everything is just a mess.

    good luck,and please be happy knowing you have a smart man that you will oneday get to marry,just let him be the one to propose on his own♥

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