- 2 months ago
- Wedding: January 2021
anonymousbee001 : if I met a guy who didn’t have his basic high school diploma, it would definitely be something I’d take note of and have concerns about our compatibility over, but if he happened to be a rare exception who had stable employment with a reasonably reliable forward trajectory, and was both interesting and intelligent, I wouldn’t write him off for it.
Chances are though that a guy who didn’t even finish high school would not be a good match for me.
I find your comments about wanting to push your future children into getting “at least a bachelor’s degree” interesting. Why is it so important to go that particular educational route? If your kid preferred to work with their hands and wanted to apprentice in a trade instead, would you seriously try to push them away from that? Why?
ETA: if it’s about wanting them to be successful, consider the fact that out of my family of four siblings, two of us went to University and two went to trade school.
The two of us who went to University have both struggled quite a bit to find meaningful and we’ll paying work. My job pays well and has a lot of flexibility, but I find it dull and boring. The other one is a teacher and has been struggling for almost a decade to get on a school board full time and has spent years hashing together an income with subbing and one-off contracts.
The two who went to trade school are both making 6 figures (CAD). One has a cushy government job as an inspector and is able to comfortably raise four kids in a nice house in a great neighborhood, all playing hockey and going to private school.
The other has risen through the ranks working in his trade and now runs multi million dollar jobs. He is about to marry a woman who has just a college diploma but has worked her way up the ranks in her company to also make 6 figures. I’m about to marry someone with a college diploma as well who makes the same as me at the moment but will almost certainly make a good 50% more than me in five years time.