Post # 31
- Wedding: August 2017 - backyard
Don’t worry if it’s not weddingy enough, just include what you like! Think of planning a big party: if you were planning a big party it would probably be a little too overwhelming to include carnival games, board games, crayons, karaoke, etc all at once. You would probably just chose 2-3 of those things. If you’re doing all that because you and your fiance want it, then include all that stuff. But if you’re doing it because you don’t want people to get bored, they’ll be fine and they can entertain themselves. For what it’s worth, we had an outdoor wedding of 50 guests and we had bocce ball, corn hole, jenga, and dancing. I was worried people would get bored and they were just fine!
Post # 32
I think caricaturist is a great way to go! Would doing two being an option and using those funds on a second thing be an option? We were anticipating about 120 guests, ended up with 105 actually showing up, and our artist got through 75 or so (and she did ours in advance). A few missed out, and a few weren’t interested. You don’t have to get every single person done! Do you know how many guests you are expecting?
DDR sounds like a super fun idea!
Post # 33
Personally I am turned off by the idea of a circus reception and this sounds like a spoiled child’s birthday party, not a wedding reception.
One or two elements would be ok. Like you mentioned many loved ones are huge board game fans. That plus the sketch artists OR the magician would be neat.
Huge no to popcorn, face painting, karaoke, and Cinco de Mayo.
Post # 34
Okay, personally I think you could totally go for it! We will probably have a “kids table” and cater somewhat to the kids (almost a third of our guest list will be under 12!) I think the popcorn can be really fun, you could have a toppings bar for that even and help spice it up. We are planning a caricaturist as well- so I fully support that idea! 😊 the face painting- eh, that’s up to you. I think it would be a dud for my crowd, but you know yours better. Also- will it bother you if your guests all have wacky face paint in your reception pictures? If not, and you think they will enjoy it go for it. I think your wedding is your time to do what’s fun for you, but also considering guests. I’d maybe allude to the casual vibes and fun atmosphere in invitations or through word of mouth if you don’t expect that your guests would already be expecting this. I say do what speaks to your heart! And congratulations!
Post # 35
…i still color on butcherpaper tablecloths at restaurants that provide crayons. im 29.
Post # 36
Oh yes, we talked it out this weekend and karaoke is definitely out. We were thinking about the party on the scale of our normal house parties, it’s fun, but different. This actually made Fi a bit bummed, he realized karaoke in front of 250 people would be a diaster, but he LOVES it. His second suggestion was setting up a karaoke room lol. Instead, we’ll just host a pool/ karaoke party for our single adult church group a couple of weeks before the wedding.
FI’s newest idea is to set up a photo booth. We’re thinking about it right now.
That’s a good point, we’re really casual people and I hope our guests will understand that our wedding reception will reflect us, maybe I should talk up the board games and brunch so guests get it. At the moment, we’re thinking it’ll be our ring ceremony followed by opening the buffet and allowing people to visit the caricaturist or grab a board game. We’re still going back and forth about dancing and a photo booth.
Manyof our friends love a photo booth, but I don’t care either way about it. We aren’t either of us dancers, plus FI’s knee still gets sore if he twists it, but his mom wants to do a mother son dance and my dad wants to do a father daughter dance. Im not totally anti-dancing, so we might do a first dance with parents and together, then leave a dance floor up for peeps who do want to dance. If we do dancing, we definitely won’t do a photo booth though. Decisions, decisions lol.
omg, I do to, that’s where idea originally came from lol.
Post # 37
Sounds cringe to me. But you know your crowd
Post # 38
Sounds like you are very wellblanced person to me! You have plenty of ideas but can let go of them gracefully if necessary. I think your reception will be great fun.
One thing l we’d reconsider is the public words about your ‘ love for each other’ . This can be excruciatingly embarrassing for guests. Save them for each other or at least say them sotto voce.
Post # 39
If you like this reception idea, and it sounds like something you guys want to do, by all means do it. It’s your reception and so long as guests are being hosted properly (ie: they have plenty of seating and plenty to eat/drink) you’re fine.
I’ll be really honest in that it sounds like a mom is trying to fancy up her kids birthday party. It’s just not ME, but it’s not my wedding, and that’s ok. You know your family and friends, and if you think they’d enjoy this kind of event go for it. If I was a guest, I’d likely stay for the ceremony and a little bit of the reception and head out. That’s primarily because I don’t really enjoy kids birthday parties (I find them just super hectic and loud) and I get that vibe from your vision.
Post # 40
honestly, this is part if the ring ceremony and it was an idea from before we got engaged. The idea is to have as a way for us to include some siblings who won’t be able to be there for the wedding (for example, 2 of my sisters and 1 of his sitters and a brother won’t be able to be there.) However, the more I think about it, the more I’m thinking we may skip the ring ceremony. It’s not essential and it’s an idea I love, but I hate being the center of attention.
It’s fun to revisit these this thread and see how a vision changes as you start finalizing details. At the moment, we going pretty Western in a way.
We’re serving barbeque(brisket and chicken with sides and salad), having butcher paper tablecloths and crayons, and are doing a both a photo booth and caricatures (I know, seems redundant, but our friends really enjoy them).
I’m still not looking forward to adding a DJ and dancing back in, but it’s booked, and it makes Fiance happy, plus he has friends who love dancing. We’ll still have board games for people like me who would dread a reception or party with nothing to do but make awkward conversation and dance. I know both our families will enjoy it anyway and a lot of friends. Can’t please everyone, but I think we can have fun ourselves.
Post # 41
I thinking just like write up reception plans here on the bee. Maybe I can look back at the posts and see how the plans changed over time lol. Since Fi brought back the dancing idea and we switched buildings, we ran out of space for the caricaturist in the hall, so it occurred to me do move some of the more kid friendly stuff out of the cultural hall and into a separate room. We also moved the reception time to 5pm.
So now the hall has the food/dining and dj/dancing and board games. We are having 2 classrooms(just across the hallway) where we are setting up kid stuff. One room is the caricaturist and games and crafts appropriate for 3-12 year olds and the other has games and crafts for the kids under 3. I’m paying 2 responsible teen girls I trust in each room to be babysitters so the parents can have fun across the hall (i may end up hiring more based on rsvps).
This idea came from my sister who has a 3 and 1.5 year old and she mentioned never getting a date night with her husband since the kids are still so young. I still I love the kids and want them to be there, but I also want a kid friendly space for the kids to do more stereotypical kid things while their parents have fun dancing or playing board games.
I’m also considering hiring waitstaff to take care of the buffet and help cleanup after the reception. The buffet food is being delivered by the restaurant right before the reception starts in disposable pans so we won’t need to clean anything and return it to the restaurant.
idk most weddings for people of my faith don’t have waitstaff, but honestly, I think it would make things easier… Fi wants to hire a day of coordinator for the reception too, so I’m currently pricing that out. We’ll see which budget will supply the money. I also downsized to one caricaturist in order to pay the babysitters and dj.
Here are the invites we bought off Etsy, hopefully it helps guests get a feel for us as people:
Post # 42
Your invites are adorable and your wedding reception sounds like it would be a blast! I’m not sure if you are still doing it, but I can’t see a problem with popcorn if you want to have it. While some people hate it, most people love popcorn. Popcorn would be easy to munch on while playing games and what not. I could see it being the “wedding mint” bowl alternative. (Although I think it does serve as a choking risk to younger kids?)
Just read your update, I would have two people per room watching the kids, ideally one adult per room as well in case of an emergency, even though the parents are across the hall. Two people though so if one person needs/wants to leave to use the bathroom or get a drink, they don’t have to coordinate it out. Perhaps I am just being overly cautious though.
I think your wedding sounds like it would be a good represenation of who you and your hubby are. 🙂
Post # 43
thanks blueberry! I totally agree on the amount of sitters. We are doing 4 total, so 2 per room. I considered paying adults, but decided against it since I know many teen girls from church needing to make pocket money for a trip they are going on this summer and the parents are across the hallway anyway, so I didn’t see the necessity.
Post # 44
Aww that is nice of you to help them out a little bit too. Good call on the 4 sitters. I think you are right, since the parents will be right across the hall or with their kids probably.
I think the photo booth and carictures will be so much fun! The adults will enjoy it all too. I feel a tad envious of the guests going to your wedding, lol.