Post # 1
My SO and I are not engaged yet. (He has a specific date picked out in his head to ask.) But I’ve been reading around on this site and looking around at things like dresses and venues. Based just on that I kind of already feel sort of over it. I’m not one of those people who have been planning their wedding in their heads since they were six years old. I just don’t know that I have enough emotionally invested in this process to go through the level of aggrivation and expense I see people talking about here on Bee.
My father loves my SO and has already offered to pay for my wedding but I can’t help but think of all the great things we could do with that money. (My father always told me growing up that he wouldn’t pay for a wedding but instead would give me a down payment for a house because weddings are “a huge waste of money” but my SO already has a house so we can have the money for a wedding instead but clearly this says something about how uninvested my dad is in it.)
My SO has also been married twice before and in fact had three “weddings” the last time for different groups of family and friends.
I guess the only thing stopping me from eloping and saving that money for other things is how utterly hurt certain people would be if not included. His mom would never forgive me, my dad would never forgive me (unless they were both there), it probably wouldn’t be a healthy thing to do to his kids since they were at his last wedding and only get to see us about four times a year due to distance. And my best friend who is a wedding planner would feel very hurt and cheated as we’ve discussed having her plan it in the recent past.
Post # 3
Don’t worry about other people. We’re eloping and will have no one there. That’s the way I wanted it because I didn’t want to have to plan all the BS nonsense.
You can always have a very small wedding with family only. You don’t need the big over-the-top affair. 🙂
Post # 4
You could have a very small intimate wedding with immediate family members to compromise…?
Post # 5
If you want to elope, elope. Your loved ones will forgive you.
Post # 6
I am in your EXACT same boat! My dad said that he would jsut give me the money if I didn’t waist it on a wedding, where my mom wants me to have a wedding. We are going to have 10 people max to make family happy and that is about it! I just don’t want to waist my life or money planning one day> Another thing, half the people that are invited to weddigns don’t want to go anyway. I think you should elope!
Post # 7
Do what works best for you and makes you happiest/less stressed 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Destination wedding with your parents and his kids. Plan to extend your stay a few more days or a week after they all fly home.
Otherwise, elope. Weddings are very stressful and although some people may be disappointed to miss your nuptials you can always have a party to celebrate your marriage when you return.
Post # 9
I may be wrong but I’m guessing his mom and his kids will be ok. They’ve done it once, if not twice, before. They’re probably just excited to have you as a member of the family.
After reading this board, it seems that brides that aren’t strong willed have the roughest times planning they’re wedding. If you’re already stressing out over hurting people’s feelings, I would suggest eloping. Don’t do it to yourself.