- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Long rant sorry but i need other (big city BEES) opinions.
Let me start off by saying there are hundreds of places to get married where i’m from. Literally hundreds. we are not at a loss for places get married. As fate would have it my aunt is getting married in 2014, i’m getting married in 2015 and my cousin (my aunts son) is getting married in 2016. thats right 14,15,16
My aunt picked place A to get married. great.
My cousin decided since they had 3 years they wouldn’t look at venues yet. great.
My fiance and i are looking at places. There happened to be a bridal expo at place B that we wanted to attend because place B is a serious contender for us because of price, location, and the fact that it’s all inclusive. Photographer, DJ, limo flowers etc.. it’s all included. The gardens are beautiful and we’ve never met anyone who had their reception there.
Yesterday my mom told me that my aunt and my cousin and his fiance went to B and decided they are getting married there. My aunt changed her place from A to B. so now BOTH my aunt and my cousin are getting married there. i was also informed my cousins fiance changed their wedding color from pink to dark purple. MY wedding color? Dark purple. This was never a secret. Everyone knew our colors.
While my fiance and i are a little miffed because of the fact that both my aunt and cousin KNEW we were looking at B (and my aunt had a place and my couisn wasn’t looking for another year or two) but they decided to choose it anyway. We said “ok we didn’t technically go look at the place yet so we can’t claim it and there are a few other places we can look at instead.” So we let it go. We still have 2 other places we’re seriously considering.
My mother seems to have no idea why we dont want to have the reception at B anymore. I’m sorry but we really wanted our wedding to be “special” and yes, since it’s ours we get that it will be special but we wanted it to be unique, different, not like everyone elses. One other issue is that since we’re all in the same family our family will compare the weddings. nobody wants their wedding compared to anyone elses, especially if it’s at the same place. If we have all have our wedding at all inclusive B we will all have the same venue, the same food, the same cake, the same photographer, the same photos, the same dj and in the case of my cousin even the same damn color scheme!! Mom keeps pushing us to still pick B and it’s really bothering us.
Are we wrong? Should we still consider B? What would YOU do? would YOU still pick that place even though your aunt is geting married in 2014 you in 2015 and your cousin in 2016??? Would it bother you having the same venue as 2 other members of your family? KEEPING IN MIND THERE ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH PLACES TO GET MARRIED WHERE WE’RE FROM.