(Closed) maybe we're being petty but we feel like our wedding wont be special if…

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 18
987 posts
Busy bee

@daniellemc:  they are all in different years, i dont think people are gonna say “oh we just saw this same exact thing last week”. another thing, the venue should have a variety of options for catering, so it wont be the exact same food, unless you all have similar tastes. I understand wanting to have your day be special, but you still have the ability to make your wedding stand out. Having the same colors may be a bit of a downer, but that doesnt mean they will be displayed in the same manner or even similar flowers. 


go with the place that you want more, even if people are getting married there. and if there are sooo many places to choose from, why are you only limiting yourself to A and B? did you not like the other places?

Post # 20
6890 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@daniellemc:  Okay here is the thing a wedding is special because you and your Fiance are getting married. There are are many, many brides who probably are going to be getting married at the same place as you through out the next 2 years, same with the colors you picked. You make is special by getting married to the person you love.

Who cares if you know or have family getting married at the same place, your wedding will be special no matter where you have it. I think you need to get that out of your head. 

Post # 23
7369 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Sassygrn:  +1 every single word

Even if I got to a wedding in the same venue I’m not thinking or comparing the two. That just doesn’t cross my mind. You and groom and your vows is what I’ll remember. And was the food good, check, is the music good, check. Is the flow right, are they keeping me around waiting too long. That is what makes your wedding. The venue not so much. Most guests aren’t taking in all the details that most brides kill themselves over. The only ones that do are other engaged females. The rest of people won’t remember your colors/themes within a weeks time. That’s the just the truth. 

To me it wouldn’t matter. But clearly it does you to yeah change it. 


Post # 24
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If your area has hundreds of venues, I would pick a different one (ok i’m thinking spitefully you should pick a different BETTER ONE :-)) and by all means do *not* tell them what you picked it’s not too late for them to change over.

Post # 25
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@daniellemc:  Not petty at all. I’d personally feel like place B has lost some of its luster, with 3 family weddings in a row there. In a big city with hundreds of venues to choose from, I’d look elsewhere.

Post # 26
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@daniellemc:  First up, your cousins wedding is a year after yours – so don’t even think about them. By that point no one will be comparing yours to theirs. And if so – whatever. You’re wedding will be long over and you’ll be in wedded bliss. And, there are only so many colors to choose from. Believe me, no one will remember in a year from now that you also had purple.

Look around, and decide what you want. If you still like the venue, go with it. If not, find somewhere else. It’ll still be special and unique to you. But if you want someone that no one else has ever been to before, then try to find it. But don’t let the fact that your family also likes a place deter yiou.

Post # 30
987 posts
Busy bee

@daniellemc:  yea after reading that it seems like they are just being lazy and taking your spot, so I understand the frustration. At least now you know to keep everything underwraps because you have people like THAT to deal with. 


I would just weigh the pros and cons, but again, I probably wouldnt want to hold my wedding there unless there was some way that you could incorporate your own ideas (theme) to make it fall out the line. I think this is doable, however still consider your options. good luck. 

Post # 31
26 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

Find an even better venue!  And then keep it a secret.

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