Well the GOOD NEWS is you say you live in a large city… so you have CHOICES…
LOTS OF CHOICES
Those of us who have been married in small towns… we didn’t get that
My hometown… had like 5 choices… Church Basement – Community Hall – one Hotel Restaurant – Country Club – or your Parent’s Backyard.
Trust me the Hotel Restaurant was barely better than the Church Basement & Community Hall (which were just big blasé boxes)
The Country Club was very expensive…
And one’s own Backyard… well that was even more sketchier in most instances than the other choices
So as I see it, you are lucky to have OTHER CHOICES… and I am sure some of them are very nice.
And I would probably go with one of them, cause I do see very much the whole your point of view when it comes to… “my Wedding will be like everyone else’s” thing, cause ya that is what I grew up with… a Wedding didn’t have a lot of individuality to it
But then again, at that time (1980s) people were far more focussed on the whole coming together of 2 Families to make a NEW Family… and no one seemed all that jazzed about the stuff that Brides worry so much about today…
Colour – Theme – Decor & Decorations – Uplighting – Fancy Linen Table Cloths & Napkins – Chair Covers – Signature Drinks – Buffet Stations – Grand Entrances – B&G Ballroom Dancing – Games – Photo Booths – Popcorn Stands – Candy Counters – and Food Carts
A Wedding wasn’t in need of a side show… IT WAS THE MAIN EVENT
Made great by the fact that the Happy Couple were surrounded by Friends & Family and there were a few drinks, decent eats, a Cake to Cut, a Bouquet to Toss, a DJ and some dancing that went into the wee hours.
So I’d say… look elsewhere if you are truly this concerned about YOUR Wedding looking like a carbon copy of someone else’s…
OR stick with this place if it is truly incredible… but instead of focussing so much on the “random details”… maybe make it a Wedding that focuses MORE on the Guests, and the whole true meaning of Getting Married.
I would say that that might very well make YOUR Wedding the one people talk about for years to come !!
Just my 2 cents.
PS… I know Etiquette is seen to be old fashioned and boring… but in reality if you really read up on the subject, it will help you to put your GUESTS first… and by doing so, that is the thing that can out-rank / out-class any other Wedding as far as I am concerned. And the funny thing… these little touches they don’t cost a lot, but they have BIG IMPACT. (ie calligraphy / handwriting the Invitation Envelopes)
You can always send me a PM if you’d like some tips