(Closed) MC support thread.. Anyone else SCARED to try again?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m really sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is. This past month was the first month we tried after our miscarriage, and I was praying for/dreading getting a positive all at the same time. I’m terrified of getting pregnant and miscarrying again, but I keep trying because even though I’m scared, we want a baby more than anything. I imagine when I get pregnant again I’ll be a nervous wreck, but I’m trying to stay positive…miscarriages are much more common than I realized, but I know that most women go on to have successful pregnancies. 

I don’t have any advice, just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone in your fears. I think it’s great that you’re taking time to get your diabetes completely under control. I can’t imagine anything better you could do for yourself and your future baby. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I gave birth to a stillborn baby December 2009 and being pregnant a second time was the second hardest thing I’ve ever been through. On top of all the normal stress of the pregnancy, I had doctor’s appointments constantly and had to meet with a high risk doctor. Every woman who is pregnant is nervous. Every woman who’s had a miscarriage is scared. Every woman who’s had a stillborn baby is terrified.

You just have to figure out if you want to face you fears.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hey there, here is a thread that may not be all that active anymore, but has some helpful info in it:

TTC After Miscarriage

There are many of us who have experienced miscarriages and it’s awful.  TTC again is more stressful than the first time around and the first 12 weeks of pregnancy are terrifying (or were for me, anyways).  I wish you all the best : )

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: It’s really worth it. However, I don’t know if I could’ve said that had things turned out differently.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

After our first MC I was terrified/excited to try again. I just felt like we absolutely had to try again ASAP. Trying again was hard because like @Mrs Sarah McK: said I was kind of hoping for/dreading a positive because I wasn’t sure if I could handle miscarrying again. When I got a positive and then miscarried again it was hard…so so hard and completely devastating. And I think about it every day and still spend a lot of time upset about it. But you can get through it. After the first MC I tought that there was no way I’d survive another one. Here I am though, surviving and getting ready to try again next month. You just have to have hope and faith that in the end the result will be worth it!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

You women are all so strong and inspiring.

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: I had no idea you had a MC or that you have diabetes!  I wish you all the best in keeping your sugars under control AND for when you decide to start TTC again.  Sorry I don’t have much experience with this topic, but I really do wish you ladies all the best and thank you for sharing.  I believe that my Mom had some issues with this and I have a lot of fears for the future, but I guess all you can do is keep on keepin’ on.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

aww i have followed your story and many other peoples stories on here… and while i cant relate as far as most of the mc’s (because mine was not far along) i know i feel pain having one at 4 weeks… i just cant imagine…. im scared to try again because i am so disappointed right now. πŸ™ dh and i havent even really talked about tryin again :*(

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I also miscarried after not even realizing there was a pregnancy, and I attribute the loss to thyroid issues that I didn’t know about until just 2 months ago. Stupid hormones, or lack thereof in my case…

Oddly enough, I don’t have an emotional connection to the “baby” if you want to even call it that, because it was totally unexpected on my part. I’m numb to the memory of it I guess you could say. I had such difficulty even typing “baby”, because it doesn’t even seem real that one was setting up shop in my body before it quickly left it.

Mostly, I have reservations about myself, and my ability to even GET pregnant. Like I’m defective. I’m curious as hell to see if I can even successfully conceive, but my husband and I are not ready for children yet– but I feel the overwhelming urge to make sure that I’m not “broken” if that makes sense. I’m almost impatient about it, and I wonder “what if?” But I often deny myself those feelings to anyone other than fellow Bees. I don’t know if that’s normal, but to sum it up, yes, I am  scared to try, but at the same time, I’m also dying to start.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

hey,

i am terrified to be pregnant again but i am also terrified we wont get pregnant again. it is the weirdest catch 22 almost. i am terrified that my body will fail me and not carry to term, i am terrified that my bod will fail me and just wont fall pregnant.

we are in the TWW right now and i am trying to not get my hopes up for a BFP but im sure you’ll all know how impossible that is. my cousin has just given birth to a beautiful Dirty Delete, my Brother-In-Law and his girlfirend are trying, my manager is pregnant, and we’re just generally surrounded by kids. i try to just enjoy all the beauty of the miracle of life, try to be joyful about everyone’s pregnancies but it is difficult sometimes because you feel ike shouting ‘why not me, why not us?’

last night i had one dream where i miscarried again, i could feel the blood rushing down my legs, woke up crying, then went back to sleep and dreamt i got a BFP lol. so even my dreams are conflicted, confused and scared lol!

in the grand scheme of things though…i want to hold our child in our arms. and if that means going through more MCs, more pian, more surgery, i will do it. i know i will.

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