Post # 31
marsh2001 : Well I am happy with this person and so he agrees with me to get engaged and we will both wait at least 6 or 7 years to get married.
What is the rush? I married the man I was dating at 18, but we dated for a long time and made sure that we were growing together throughout our 20s. We got engaged at 26 and married at 27, after we had both finished college and graduate school. If you’re in the right relationship, it will still be the right relationship 5+ years from now if you’re “just” dating; an engagement is just a promise to marry, not an additional commitment. Take your time. Of my friends who were in serious relationships at the same time as my husband and I (18-20), we are the only ones who are still together (we are now in our early 30s). Many of my friends found love with great people after those relationships didn’t work out.
Post # 32
marsh2001 : At 18? I would run the other way.
Post # 33
Oh sweet summer child. It seems like a good idea now but in ten years you will look back and realize it’s the worst idea you ever had.
You’ll gon learn today
Post # 34
I was in a serious relationship at 18. We talked about eventually getting married too. So much can happen in 6-7 years. My relationship ended with him cheating on me and looking for sex on Craigslsit (local advertisments). Thank God, I found out when I did. SInce then, I’ve graduated college, found a fantastic job and met the man of my dreams.
I’m not saying he will do this to you. He may be the one for you and I hope he is! But you can still commit to someone without getting engaged. Just enjoy life for what it is right now. Focus on your goals as a committed couple and work towards building a life someday.
Post # 35
I met my husband at 19 but the idea of marriage didn’t even come up until we’d finished our education. We married at 27.
Post # 36
You said yourself you know it’s too early. I know you won’t take our word for it, but at 19 you think you know it all.
Post # 37
If you are meant to be together you will be even stronger and more in love in a few years. Go to school and see more of the world and then commit yourself to another human being for the rest of your lives.
Post # 38
marsh2001 : I just recommend living together for one full year before you start planning a wedding……just to be sure that you really are what makes each other happy. I’ve seem many posts on here from some very unhappy ladies that got married quickly and only moved in together after getting married, only to realize it or he was not what they really needed to be happy afterall
Post # 39
marsh2001 : NOOOOOOOOOOOO
Don’t do it.
The fact that you think this is a good idea just proves that you are too immature to get married.
If you need extra commitment get a promise ring, just don’t start getting engaged and married. I was engaged at 17 and oooooooh boy. My dumb ass didn’t know any better at that time. I guarantee that if you wait 5 years this guy will either be long gone or you will both be in a better position to consider marriage than you are now.