Post # 1
We are doing online RSVPs and a plated meal. We will need to get the meal choice from all guests with their RSVP. Fiance wants to put the description of the meal rather than just ‘beef, fish, vegetarian’ (either on the RSVP or on the website under a menu tab). His thinking is that, they sound REALLY good and wants people to know what theyre getting. I 100% understand this and agree except that if we get a certain number of declines, we will have to upgrade the meal to make up our catering $. So example, we currently have rib eye, it would filet/salmon vs swordfish. I don’t want someone agreeing to their meal and then getting it swapped when they show up.
So bees, what do you think? Vague description in case things change, or descriptive enough to start making peoples mouths water pre-wedding?
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
jellybellynelly : I just did Chicken, Beef, or Salmon. A few curious people texted to ask what type of meals for a description, but most people didn’t mind and gave their answer.
Post # 3
This is tricky. As someone with food allergies, and I’m a rather picky eater, I would really want to know what the exact dish was. If it was vague, I would be pretty annoyed, but I wouldn’t text for any clarification- unless it was a very close friend’s wedding.
On the other hand, if you end up switching the meals, that doesn’t help me at all when I’m trying to pick a dish based on my dietary needs… How likely is it that you’ll switch the meals around?
Post # 4
We gave full descriptions due to the sides differing, as we felt that may affect people’s selections (eg the steak came with a side dish of peppercorn sauce, sautéed potatoes, and wilted spinach; whereas the salmon was served with spring onion and herb crushed potatoes and a white wine veloute). We were also giving choices for the starter and dessert so this played into it too (eg if someone was picking the fruit salad for dessert they might go for a heavier main). If you may upgrade though I would stick with vague, as your examples of salmon vs swordfish/rib eye vs fillet are very different (I know people who prefer rib eye to fillet, and if the choice were fillet, would go with fish instead). If you keep it vague there is less room for disappointment if you do upgrade.
Another option is to describe the dishes so people know what they are choosing, and then upgrade elsewhere eg larger drinks selection/extra canapés/more cake flavours/etc. This is what we did as for us having people be able to to select their meals was important, and it was really appreciated by the guests. We then added an additional canapé, and 2 extra choices on the evening buffet.
Post # 5
We just did beef, chicken or vegitarian and then had a line under that saying please list any dietary restrictions so people can write allergies and whatever else.
ETA: our menu tasting is after invites go out anyways and also WAY after we had to order them so either way this would be our choice.
Post # 6
MrsSapphire : Thank you!
lahela017 : barbie86 : We aren’t sure the likelihood yet. We are providing our own liquor, so that isn’t an option, but we could do more canapes or possibly a late night snack. We are also doing a 3 course (+self serve dessert), so I agree knowing all the options might factor into which you choose for each course.
I am going to pitch Fiance the idea of upgrading the canapes or adding a late night snack instead of changing the main. The only issue would be additional staff might be required for the late night snack, but I think the cost would be minimal.
Post # 7
Vague is better for exactly the reason you stated. The only time it makes sense to be specific is for something unusual like a vegan wedding.
I would also leave a line so people can write any allergies or dietary restrictions.
Post # 8
anatheanalyst : Thank you! We also have a section for allergies and dietary restrictions, and the caterer has let us know they are willing to change a few dishes to suit.
Post # 9
I’d go vague: dishes can change due to ingredient availability, so even if YOU don’t change your mind the dish may change slightly. I think saying which cut is safe enough if you want to, but I wouldn’t write it out like a menu.
Post # 10
In another other situation, I’d say be descriptive, because the sides and whatnot could really make a difference in people’s decisions. However, if you’re going to have to upgrade things to meet a budget, definitely just give the vague description so that you cover all your bases.
Post # 11
I have a bunch of friends who have done vague on the card itself, but listed the options with more description on their websites just so that people who cared could find out. I believe they had an insert with their website that said more information (including about meal choices) could be found there.
Post # 12
A little bit of mystery can be a good thing, make people’s mouths water on the day of, with your full menu! Especially if you have an area already for dietary restrictions, I’d keep it a bit vague.
Saying that, I am so excited about our menu and am having trouble keeping my mouth shut. But I already did share a few details, and now those are things I can’t really change… (We have already had to change something we told a few people about, and I’m really sad about it…)
Post # 13
You definitely need to let people know what kind of fish it will be. Chicken and beef, I think people are a little less wary and will just go with it. Fish, people won’t order unless they know what its going to be or they’re pescatarian and don’t really have a choice anyways.
We had a bunch of people assume we were serving salmon, so we were sure to put on the RSVP card that it was rockfish.
Post # 14
I would go with descriptive- that’s what we’re planning on doing. If you just say “beef/chicken/fish” there’s a huge difference between the different types of beef/chicken/fish dishes they could actually be. Also for the vegetarian- I’m not a vegetarian but I could see myself choosing the vegetarian option if the description looked good.
I choose my meal for weddings based on what option looks best, I don’t usually just go with the beef or chicken every time regardless- do many people do this? (Obviously, outside of any dietary restrictions.)
Post # 15
We were a little more descriptive just so people would know the types of flavors they were getting. Our choices were “Mediterranean Chicken,” “Asian Salmon,” and “Butternut Squash Ravioli.” Enough so people knew what to expect but not with getting down to every detail of sauces, sides, and preparation.