(Closed) Mean comments about FSIL’s looks from family “friend”–how would you handle it?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I would probably leave it alone. Only bad can come of this, and I’m sure your Future Sister-In-Law will be incredibly hurt to know she said anything about her looks. Just let it go, and if this woman ever says anything to you, stand up for your Future Sister-In-Law. I’m sure this woman is no prize…

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Leave it alone. There is no reason for this to spread any farther – all it will do is cause hurt feelings. The woman is incredibly cruel to say things like that, but no one else should help her out by repeating what she says.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldnt say anything. This lady obviously has no manners!!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

Your mother needs to shut it and I’d go so far as to say should have kept that information to herself.  And the woman who said it sounds like she suffers from low-self esteem.

Let the ick stop with you.  Do not share it with Fiance or anyone else!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@violet25:  But if someone said, “Oh, you shouldn’t invite Jane to your wedding, she doesn’t really support you,” you’d want to know why. So there’s really no way to do that without passing on the hurtful comment.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

There is absolutely no reason for you to pass this information along to your brother.  What if your Future Sister-In-Law found out?  Depending on the type of person she is her feelings might be very hurt.  Telling them would only create hurt feelings and needless drama and in my opinion, you might be seen as rude for telling them. 

When I got married my MIL’s best friend ripped my wedding apart the next day.  When my husband and I stopped by MIL’s house to say goodbye to his grandparents before our flight, Mother-In-Law started telling me everything she said.  It was really hurtful and made me feel so self-conscious about my wedding, which up until then I thought had been great.  I mean, it hadn’t even been over for 24 hours at that point.  I still really resent my Mother-In-Law for doing that to me.  Essentially, some things are better left unsaid!!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Leave it be, but give the woman some serious side-eye at the event. And if you hear her saying anything, pull her aside and set her straight about her place in the world.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@violet25:  you can’t control how another person reacts.  And, it sounds like she has quite the mouth, given her history.  I’m sure those close to her take her comments with a grain of salt – but I sure wish someone had the balls to tell her to quit it (like one of her friends).

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