Post # 1
So, I belong to this mommy club and there’s one lady in it who just bothers me. She’s so bitter and always has something negative to say, specifically about me. I’ve approached her and she denied it of course. But she’s just miserable. If I say something as innocent as My son had macaroni and cheese for lunch yesterday, she’ll pick it apart and turn me into a monster. I can’t ignore her, and I’m not going to drop my support group because of her. Suggestions?
Post # 3
You can either
1) continue to ignore
2) address each comment as the come along with an arsenal of statements you can pull from
“I appreciate your opinion, but I am comfortable with the decision to … (feed my child mac and cheese for lunch). I would appreciate it if you wouldnt judge my … (food choices)”
“Thank you for your feedback, but I just do not agree with you”
“Please do not comment on … as this is my decision to make”
Post # 4
Ignore her? I’m really sorry but that’s my only advice. She’s obviously a miserable bully and the best way to get rid of a bully is not to give them any attention. Next time she says something rude, just keep talking like you didn’t even hear her. Eventually, she’ll get the hint that her attitude isn’t affecting you and she’ll go away.
It’s unfortunate that some women feel the need to act like this. : I’m sorry you have to deal with her.
Post # 5
Yeah I think you need to address each comment as they come instead of trying to point out a pattern of her bullying. If you point it out enough times (and in front of enough people!) she should hopefully get the hint.
I could picture myself telling her to speak with someone about her issues/need to contstantly belittle others, but I’m not sure that would be productive.