Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
So DH and I were telling my stepdaughter goodnight last night, and we were in her room tucking her in. (She’s 10, but we still have our “tuck-in” routine with her, lol.) We were all being a bit silly when suddenly she looked at me and in a semi-serious, yet snotty tone she said “you have bags under your eyes”. Bees, it was like a gut punch! I responded with “that’s not a very nice thing to say” and she she countered with “well, you do.” I couldn’t believe it! She’s normally a sweetheart. I explained that you should never make negative comments about someone’s appearance, and DH backed me up. She looked embarrassed for a second, then went right back to being silly and acting like nothing happened.
I tried to brush it off by telling myself kids have no tact, but the truth is it really hurt my feelings! It sucks to have an insecurity called out like that. She’ll be 11 this summer and I sincerely hope she never says things like that to friends. We have her 50% of the time, and I swear whenever we get her back from a weekend at her mom’s she’s always extra sassy. (Her mom is the type to always comment negatively about people behind their backs, so we try our best to instill our values of kindness, compassion, etc. while she’s with us.)
She starts middle school in September and I’m scared she’ll go to the dark side!! Lol middle school kids can be awful.
So bees, what’s the worst thing your kid has ever said to you?!
Post # 2
Not my kid, but a little girl I used to babysit told me she was going to set me on fire….she was FOUR!!!!! I was shocked I almost didn’t know what to say and was super embarrased to tell the parents that their four year old was probably going to murder them in their sleep! Hahaha
Sorry your stepdaughter said that 🙁 Sometimes I don’t think kids even realize what they are saying or how hurtful their words can be. I think it’s great you are teaching her how bad words can hurt!
Post # 3
I’m a nanny, so they’re not my kids, but I love them dearly.
The worst thing they have said is “I hate you!”
I explained that words can sometimes be hurtful and even if you say sorry for them afterwords, people never forget how you made them feel. And that made me very sad. They no longer say that and now can express their anger with “I’m very angry with you!” instead. (Which is soo much better/healthier)
Post # 4
My 9 year old nephew said the cruelest thing the other day. We were talking about his birthday party and he said to his mother: “If operaglove were my mother I’d live in a big enough house to actually have a birthday party.”
Yikes. He said is so calmly, too. I don’t even think he was being a brat… He was just saying what he thought. My SIL (his mother) rents a very tiny co-op unit with no backyard and her son wanted to have a birthday party this year.
My fiances neice is pretty young nd when we ran into her in Costco with her parents my Fiance tried to pick her and and she started screaming stranger danger, lol. I don’t think she recognized him outside of a familiar environment. When he explained who she was she was skeptical lol
Post # 5
Not my kid because I don’t have any but I work in a day care one of the children grabbed my long hair and said “you have lovel-yucky hair!” And it’s because it’s all curly and frizzy underneath! It was silly but I’ve never worn my hair down again…kids are so truthful lol
Post # 6
Yesterday my 4 year old said my teeth look yellow and I should take the tissue test. LOL clearly the crest whote strips commercial is rubbing off on her. But she has also told me that my belly looked big before. And has said I hate you more than once.
Post # 7
Not mine or his kid but my brother was at his friends house the other day. His boy is about 7 i think. He got up from the floor while they were watching a show, went to the TV which is black, pointed to the corner of the TV casing and said “this is as dark as your future” then walked off!
Post # 8
My stepson has Asperger’s, so he’s even more outspoken at times….he has told me on several occasions over the years “Well, to be honest, I really don’t like being around you…or really like you.”
I try to keep in mind his Asperger’s, but I’m not gonna lie, it has really hurt me and has caused some issues between my husband and I in the past. He hasn’t said it in a long time, but I still get the sense, at times, that he doesn’t like me. I don’t understand why!? I’ve been over backwards for him and continue to do so. He will be 14 on June 13th.
Post # 9
I’m very easy going so this didn’t upset me, it just took me by surprise, and I just remembered because of the “bags under your eyes” comment
At 17, my fiances daughter should probably have known better, but I guess she’s still learning how to be tactful and have a filter…? Maybe?
We were getting in the car and she was like… “just so you know, sansa, you have silver in your hair”.
I was like… Yeah? And the more I try to pluck it out, the more I find!
I was too surprised to say anything, but there have been other times where she says one word snotty answers (like a teenager) and I’ve talked to her about it. Just asking if I’ve done something and that if she’s not upset, she should be careful with her tone because people would find it rude.
Post # 11
I hate you. You’re not my best friend.. she’s 3 the best is yet to come I’m sure.
Post # 12
My kids have said plenty of hurtful things,especially years ago when I was divorcing their father but I knew if was circumstances and would pass. The most hurtful thing was when I bought some skinny jeans as was debating whether to keep them or return them. My stepdaughter said “keep them, fat thighs are really fashionable right now”. Cheers, love. Lol.
Post # 13
I’m sorry that happened! Honestly children can be so much more cruel than adults. A snarky mother will definitely pass that cruelty on to her child. My mom (and actually everybody in my family) was the meanest! I know I said a lot of horrible things as a child as well.
I think sometimes kids have to learn what’s appropriate from experience with other kids. One or two “I don’t want to play with you because you’re mean” episodes will probably do the trick.
Sorry for the tangent. I get that she simply made you feel crappy. I wouldn’t trust a 10 year old’s aesthetic though. Who knows what kind of criticisms her mom has been throwing around lately. For all you know, mom made a comment about under eye bags recently so stepdaughter thinks she notices them in every woman who isn’t airbrushed and posing on a magazine cover.
Side note: The prettiest girl in my high school actually kind of had/has natural bags under her eyes.
Post # 14
Mom, your fatness is showing.
I was sitting in bed wearing a tank top that was pulled up.
Post # 15
wow, my kids are 7 and 9 and they have never said anything mean to me…but maybe they are scared to death of the consequences- not sure.