- 2 months ago
- Wedding: April 2018
Hey everyone, my husband and I have been married for a year and a half. Last year was our first Christmas as a family, and we HATED everything about Christmas gift shopping. It was extremely stressful to try to plan everything, find the perfect gift for everyone, and it’s kind of disappointing to spend money on things people don’t really even care about. We only bought gifts for close family but that still ended up being a lot of people. It all felt more stressful than meaningful, and we think Christmas should be meaningful. We don’t mind spending the money on something that feels meaningful to everyone, but Christmas presents aren’t doing it for us.
So, we’ve been trying to brainstorm how we can give something unconventional but still show everyone we love that we care about them. I would love to hear if you have any ideas or something you and your family have done. We have thought of funding family activities instead of giving individual gifts, but we couldn’t think of something that anyone, including the Grandparents, would enjoy. We thought about donating to charities instead of giving presents, but thought that might be tacky. We thought about just saying “no gifts’ either to or from us, because we just want to spend time with people, but that feels very “Christmas with the Kranks.”
Gifts are actually my love language but I don’t love most of what I receive at Christmas, unless it has really sentimental value. My Grandparents also still give everyone a significant amount of money at Christmas, and I keep letting them because I don’t know how to say I don’t want it without offending them. But I feel I am way too old to be recieving this sort of gift from my grandparents and part of me wonders if they just feel obligated to do it because it’s what everyone expects now.
Would love some input on this! If you have a way to make this holiday less shallow, please let me know!