(Closed) Meat Or No Meat?

posted 9 years ago in Food
  • poll: Should we serve meat at our reception?

    Yes, everybody will be expecting it, and you're the only one not eating it.

    No, it's your day, and it won't hurt to go one meal without it.

  • Post # 91
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Wow, I’m surprised by the votes!

    If I was going to the wedding of a vegetarian I would be extremely surprised to see meat there.

    No meat!

    People are whiners if they can’t go one meal without meat, and illogical if they expect it at the wedding of a vegetarian.

    Post # 92
    15132 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m not vegetarian, but I voted no meat.  No one’s going to die if they have a one vegetarian meal.  I was invited to a vgetarian wedding once, and honestly, I was turned off by the idea, BUT then was plesantly surprised by how delicious everything was and turned out loving the food and flavor.

    Post # 93
    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m not a vegetarian, but love trying new foods.  I would be really excited to go to your wedding knowing I would get to try new things!

    I think you should do what you feel is right.  Don’t worry about your mom’s pressure or anyone else’s opinion.  As long as you have enough food for all your guests to eat, then you’ve done your job as a host. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 94
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    Meat and Seafood Eater checking in…

    DO NOT use fake meat, and realize that while you love mixed veggies in lots of things there are many people who would rather not have a bunch of mixed veggies on their plate. 

    I have veggie friends so I totally get your viewpoint, but I’m a finicky vegetable eater.  My favorite greens are in my salad.  For me to be happy with a vegetarian meal, I would prefer it be plainer than my veggie friend’s normal choice. 

    …I’d rather have a plain but flavorful pasta sauce rather than finding chunks of veggies in a pasta or lasagna.  Give me plain cheese stuffed shells not ones with spinach and I’ll be okay without meat, but just as I wouldn’t force a vegetarian to eat real meat, don’t force me to eat extra veggies just because you like them… 

    You can definitely have fun with your menu, but be sure that you are giving people some options of how vegetarian their meal is… some people would be fine with chunky veggies in their food, but I know quite a few people who aren’t…   

    Post # 95
    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’m not a vegetarian but love vegetarian menus when it’s done right. As long as the choices are well thought out entrees and not just a bunch of heavy, starchy side dishes, vegetarian options can be really exciting!

    It is possible to have vegetarian dishes that won’t make you miss the meat. We made this incredible mushroom ragu over polenta a few weeks ago that was amazing. A hearty risotto would also make an excellent entree.

    We’re both meat-lovers, fyi. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 96
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance and I are both vegetarian.  We would both prefer to have an all veggie wedding are thinking of having a selection of veggie entrees e.g.

    Butternut Ravioli, Granny Smith Apple, Arugula, Cinnamon Cream

    Ratatouille Provencal, Oven Roasted Vegetables, Tomato Sauce, Chevre, Breadcrumbs

    Coconut Curried Vegetables, Basmati Rice, Cucumber Rita, Oven Baked Naa

    However my fiance’s family is paying for the food so I guess they will have the final choice!  

    Post # 97
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You’re not gonna please everyone no matter what you do, so i say go with No Meat, and if they don’t like it, they don’t have to eat it.  Even if you had meat, they would probably complain it wasn’t cooked right, haha

    It will not by any means make you a bad host! 

    Post # 98
    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Wow, it was interesting to read these!  Groom and I are both vegetarians for 10+ years and will be having a vegetarian wedding.  The menu is similar to Mandypops ๐Ÿ™‚  We are doing traditional, classic Mediterranean dishes.  

    It is easier for meat eaters to eat a vegetarian dinner than the other way around.  I have never complained about food offered to me, (it is rude!), but have been offended by some of the comments my mother and other family has made to me regarding our dinner choice.  Because I don’t push my beliefs onto others, I don’t think even she knows how emotionally and spiritually driven our “diet” is. Taking the life of other living beings is against our personal values.  I don’t judge others’ diets, beliefs or religions and wish people would consider maybe we are vegetarians not just as a diet choice, but because of reasons very important to us before they make insulting comments about our wedding dinner! We have been told we are not being “considerate” to our guests.  Making thoughtless comments about our dinner is inconsiderate! We will not be serving any meat due to how absolutely uncomfortable it would make us.  It will be okay for people to go one meal without meat.  I put a lot of thought, time and love into the menu ๐Ÿ™‚  I am sure people will be happy being served a delicious dinner (buffet with plenty options) and an open bar.  I believe I am being a good hostess.

    It was nice to express that here, as I don’t feel ilke going on a rant defending myself to them and sounding like a “preaching vegetarian”.  

     If you want a vegetarian dinner go for it if it means a lot to you.  You will still be a wonderful hostess taking good care of her guests and feeding them a beautiful dinner ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 99
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Omg, what is wrong with these meat fiends? I eat meat, but I have been to vegetarian weddings and they were super tasty! Everyone can eat vegetables, but meat (including the smell) can make vegetarians feel ill. (Something I myself have started understanding since I got pregnant.)

    Lots of delicious veggie options. And healthier for everybody too!

    Post # 100
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I say don’t do meat if it’s not part of your lifestyle..yes people may be surprised but as someone suggested you could add something like vegetarian reception to follow etc.


    It’s YOUR wedding day..and things like chilli beans etc are just as substantial as meat.

    Post # 101
    2790 posts
    Sugar bee

    I haven’t read the previous posts so forgive me if this is repetative. I think if you offer something normal enough meat eaters would not notice. If you served a pasta meal that is hearty and filling yet mainstream enough for all of your guests then people will not complain. If you were to choose to serve a solely vegitarian meal that is lots of greens, fruits and vegetables then I think you will have people going hungry.

    What I’m trying to say is, if you served me a ricotta ravioli with a tomato sauce or alfredo I would not question it and I would eat my meal and be full. If you served me a mushroom, red pepper and spinich panini I would probably not even eat it and I would leave your reception to go get something else.

    I know you don’t eat meat but I also think that the same grace you would like to be offered you should give to your guests. If a meat eater offered no vegetarian meal at all at their wedding you would be slightly miffed not? Why wouldn’t you want to offer them something they like?

    Post # 102
    2790 posts
    Sugar bee

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    @alex88:  I’m not going to lie… I would go hungry at your wedding because none of that is anything I would eat. When you have to get creative due to needing the meal to be substantial on traditionally non substantial items food seems to get fussy, In My Humble Opinion.

    Post # 103
    1933 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m a meat eater, but I wouldn’t be offended or anything if you didn’t have meat.  

    However, being highly lactose intolerant, I find a lot of vegetarian dishes have dairy in them.  And I know MANY people who have dairy intolerances.  I would just make sure that you have something that everyone can eat.  Doesn’t have to be meat.

    Post # 104
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Don’t pander to the masses. If you are a vegetarian for moral or religious reasons, you shouldn’t have to violate your rules on account of some stuffy people who still think all meals must include meat.

    For me, personally, I’d love to have a day where I can eat everything on the menu. I would super-adore it if that day was my wedding day. Your guests will not keel over if they ‘miss out’ on meat for a meal. What I would do is just not tell anyone it’s a vegetarian menu. A lot of people probably won’t even notice.

    Post # 105
    350 posts
    Helper bee

    I haven’t read every single one of the posts, but when it comes down to it, I don’t think anyone is going to be complaining about “The one wedding without the meat” even a year or two down the road. And if they are? I wouldn’t be too concerned if that’s the worst thing they’ve had to deal with in recent time.

    It’s your wedding. Serve what you want. People shouldn’t be attending a wedding for the food anyway. It should be to offer support and love to the couple!

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