(Closed) Meddlesome cousin inviting people to the wedding…AAAARRGHH

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3964 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

That is totally bizarre.  What I don’t get is on the one hand he is like “you may not have been invited because of numbers” and then goes onto say “but these are the details if you want to go because Kant probably wont mind.”

Weird *and not okay*.  I agree that you should contact G and make it clear who is and isn’t invited.

People are odd sometimes!

Post # 5
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Kant: Hi dear!


I dealt with a kinda similar situation with our wedding. We cut distant cousins we had not seen since Bush Sr was president. They got wind of the wedding and all of a sudden wanted invites. I ignored them. Like your cousins, I had not seen them at other important family events and I was not willing to allow them to come eat and drink for free on our dime. My mom invited them because they called her, not me, to question her. Again, no invite was sent and they would have been stopped by the hostess at the door.

I’m sorry your cousin is so rude. Your email was pleasant and clear. I hope your cousins don’t cause a stink about not being invited, though I can’t see why seeing as they do not have a lot to do with you.

Good luck!

Post # 6
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Kant: OMG! That is so outrageous! Who ARE these people who think it’s ok to invite others to a party that they have no hand in planning? I think your response email was great–polite but firm. There’s no way he can misinterpret it. Good luck, and let us know if you get a response!

Post # 7
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

…..WTF? I really, really like the email you sent back because I have to admit if someone had given out all that information about our wedding, I think I would’ve flipped out. So crazy how people do that. Do let us know what happens, please 🙂 And sending wishes your way for no more drama!

Post # 8
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ooh, Kant, I hope this doesn’t turn into a dramafest for you. Who does that?! Cousin G is a biiiiiit off base here (like, wrong ballpark). I think your response was a good one, and I hope cousin G gets it and passes along his ‘new information’ to A (even though he knew this all along). Please keep us updated.

Post # 9
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

What the hell? I think I’d have another addition to the cut list after that fiasco!

Post # 10
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

That is crazy, and so presumptious and rude.  I would probably freak out, so I commend your calm and levelheaded response.  I seriously would have flipped. 

Post # 11
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

what in the hell is that all about? Who does that?!?! Hope he gets the hint, you worded it nicely

Post # 12
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Wowww!  Wtf?!  I like the way you responded to G.  I don’t know if I would’ve been able to remain so level-headed.

Post # 13
5668 posts
Bee Keeper

You handled that so well. Who does that?! The email G sent to A is just BIZARRE. I would have lost my damn mind.

Post # 14
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i think you handled things really well.  i would have been so mad! i hope he gets the message!

Post # 15
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

“according to facebook they’ve been an item for a few years now”

this is the part that really creeps me out! like they are critiquing your relationship to see if it’s worth attending the wedding. Ugh!

You handled it really well. I’d be tempted to re-tract G’s invite if he continued to act this way!

Post # 16
37 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

Perhaps you should cut him out entirely. It appears he has no respect for your relationship, to any degree. It is entirely tacky and tasteless to invite people if they were were not aware of the event to begin with much less to do so behind your back. It was not his place to invite anyone and one would think he’d know this. Never the less he’s adding unnecassary stress to your wedding budget. You should not under any circumstance have to tell someone not to do something like this but alas some people get a kick out of it and or have no respect for others.


Also, it would be wise to change your password pronto to the website.

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