(Closed) Meddling FIL-to-be

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@dana689:  Have you been to the regional or interracial boards? Some bees there might have more insights, but I’ll offer what I have as well 🙂

My husband lived in Russia for a couple of years, and he says this is infact normal behavior for many people there, which makes you situation especially sticky. I was going to suggest talking to him, but it seems for Fiance has already done that (good for him, I think it’s importnat for each of you to handle your own families). Maybe it would help to take more drastic measures? Set boundaries about how often he’s allowed to come over, or tell him that unless he’s been invited the two of you will be unavailable for him to visit and then stick to it. Maybe it’d be super rude to just not let him in….but he’s been pretty rude too. Good luck!

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@dana689:  Well you and your Fiance need to stop TALKING about boundaries and move to PHYSICALLY ENFORCING said boundaries!

He knocks on the door?  You don’t answer.

He has a key?  Change the locks.

You can talk, talk, talk until your blue in the face, but until the boundaries are substantially enforced, you’re gonna keep on talking…

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