(Closed) Meet someone when you least expect it?? Is this true?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I met my fiance when I wasn’t looking! I had just gotten out of a serious relationship (who I THOUGHT I would marry one day..boy was I wrong :P) and was out at a club with my best friend. We needed a ride home and he happened to be Dear Daughter that night…him and his best friend dropped us off at home and a week later we were inseperable…5 years later and we’re getting married this September

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Packers12:  Well I don’t think it’s some kind of law of te universe or something. I mean you CAN meet someone when you don’t expect to, but that doesn’t mean everyone will. 

I do think that you’re more likely to meet someone you genuinely connect with if you’re dating them because you’re interested in them as a person, rather than dating because you want a boyfriend, if that makes sense. I have a lot of friends who married guys because they wanted to be in a relationship/engaged/married, not because they found this one amazing person who gets them. 

Post # 49
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I started dating my husband (Of whom I had previously dated during college) when I was in a steady relationship of three years. I broke it off with him in order to date my husband.

Falling in love with him was the last thing on my mind. I got in touch with him to get his father’s phone number and the rest is history.

Post # 50
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Our church and then at The Garden Room for the reception

Yes, it’s true. I met my SO when I wasn’t looking, but the timing was way off (for various reasons). We didn’t really get to know each other or become friends for another few years, but once we did, it was great. πŸ™‚

 

Post # 51
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Sugar bee

@Packers12:  True, true! When I met my Fiance I had just broken up, first a miserable 8 year relationship earlier that year, then the rebound (only a 3 month relationship), but both guys were jerks and I just wanted to out and have fun, not jump into something new. He was not looking for anything at all. It just happened. Relax and get your mind off of it. When it happens it happens.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Packers12:  Absolutely. H was going to try to be single for a while and I was trying to figure out how to break into the casual dating pool. So neither of us expected to be meeting our future spouses lol.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Packers12:  Hmm…. I certainly wasn’t looking for anyone, so this may be true. πŸ™‚ I met fi while I was working at my dorm’s residential desk. The hours were horrible (no one was allowed more than 15 hours a week, and shifts were between 2 and 3 hours long) and it’s kind of miraculous that I met him when I did. πŸ˜€ My coworker who’s shift I was taking jsut went, “Oh! Hey *fi’s name* have you met Asia? She’s awesome” and left. lol. we spend my whole 3 hour shift talking, and then went to goof off at a playground on campus property with some friends. We instantly clicked, and I’ve never felt anything like it before in my life. πŸ˜€

Post # 54
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Helper bee

I believe it! I started dating my SO when I was really fed up with dating jerks that weren’t good enough. He and I lived in the same small town, attended the same high school, and had a lot of the same friends. I didn’t know he liked me during that time, but he recently confessed that he did! I hadn’t seen him in almost 10 years….the last time I had seen him was at a bar when I was 21 and we talked for a while but we were both with other people and only talked as friends. So, fast forward to this past December. He and I talked a lot because I was dating someone that he use to be good friends with. It was not a very good relationship, and talking to him helped me deal. Come January, the relationship ended and my current SO and I gave it a month or so of talking first before deciding to hang out in person. In February, we hung out and have been together since. It hasn’t been long, but I definitely love him more than I thought possible! He treats me with respect and he is such a great guy πŸ™‚ I never looked at him as a boyfriend at all for all those years I knew him, but when I did, I fell hard!

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I met my SO the morning after breaking up with my ex at training for a new job. We didn’t start dating until a few months later, but it was the perfect example of “when one door closes, another one opens”! Focus on knowing exactly what it is you want from your life, and what you want from a partner in the meantime. 

And while you do tend to meet people when you least expect it, there’s no harm in taking up “social” activities, playing rec sports or taking a new class. It sounds lame, but at best you meet someone with similar interests, and at worst you do a fun new activity! Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I met my fiance through his best friend, my boyfriend at the time. (I know that sounds awful). I did not cheat, I didn’t even start having feelings for him until 3 months after we broke up. And I was in denial about it. I had finally accepted that I was single and probably would be for a long time and then suddenly I found myself falling for him. It’s crazy how things work out. So yes I think it does happen when you least expect it.

P.S. We are both still good friends with my ex. He was fine with it all.

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Technically I met my husband while I was still with my ex, because he got hired where we both still work. I really didn’t like him at first, but after we started talking we became friends. About nine months after he started working there, I broke up with the ex, and went through a crazy, single girl phase for a bit. Probably five months after that, husband and I went on a date, and now here we are!

I was not expecting to marry him or anything at the time (I really figured we’d date for awhile and that would be that as I wasn’t looking for a long term relationship), but I’m so happy that we did/are.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Packers12:  I definitely believe it will happen when you least expect it… I met my Fiance not even 3 weeks out of an off/on two year relationship, and was NOT looking for anything serious…

After meeting him, my mind changed pretty damn fast, and we were living together within 3 and a half months!!

Keep your chin up, you are still quite young, live a little and have fun, good things will happen when you do that! πŸ™‚

Post # 59
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137 posts
Blushing bee

Yes and no.  I met my first love, and the guy after him, totally randomly – on vacation for spring break in Amsterdam for the former (after a botched attempt to go on a walking tour that I wanted, because my travel companion was a passive-aggressive drug fan), and in my postgrad program for the latter.

The way SO and I met was very deliberate – online.  He’d been using dating sites for a while, not having a lot of luck but not giving up hope and continuously trying.  I had just hopped onto that site after a very traumatic event in my life and hearing from a friend who used the service.  I don’t believe it when people say they were “online but not looking” – we both were actively looking.  Online dating is no walk in the park – you can meet a lot of weirdoes.  No one goes online if they’re not really looking. *eye roll*

So, the real deal was from deliberately looking and the other blips in my life happened by chance.  You just never know! 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

I had stopped looking and wasn’t too upset about it, but then my fiance asked me on a date like seven months later. We’d been friends for a year and a half, so he didn’t appear out of the blue, but when we met, he was dating someone else, so I didn’t think of him as a possible person to have a relationship with.

Post # 61
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Packers12:  I met my husband online while I was playing world of warcraft.  Do you know how many of his friends told him he would never meet anyone playing video games?  It’s a big joke now amongst his friends.  He told me that he never had very good luck meeting girls out at bars or parties, so he just kind of “gave up.” Here’s us in game vs in real life.

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