- 1 year ago
I figured the weddingbee is filled with ladies and great advice that maybe someone could help me?
I moved back to my hometown, no real family in town (thanksgiving and the holidays are upon us) and it’s important to me to sustain a handful of genuine friendships. We can count on each other and be there for one another. I decided to join an app called meetup and joined a few groups. There was one in particular that myself and a handful of others made a thread and just decided to meet up. We all hit it off, talking about when we would hang out again. One of the girls stated at the 2nd meetup (all original ppl from the 1st meetup) we need to make our own meetup group to add more ppl and get more ppl to participate in. I thought “okay”.
Well that girl hasn’t came to another meetup and our group has since meet up a dozen more times. Our group has really clicked, all different personalities are really meshing. Well so now everyone (i dont mind) has chimed in with different budgets and wants, activities, hobbies, etc and I feel like no more than 3 ppl out of our group can agree on one thing. It feels stressful tbh. There’s another girl from the group recently that told me she wants us to keep our options open and invite more ppl within our dozen. I expressed I can’t maintain real friendships when there’s more than a dozen ppl I’m trying to get to know (a dozen is alot anyway imo)
I’m starting to think she isn’t as invested in a genuine friendship as I am. Maybe I should branch off and stay in touch with the group I already have going and put the app to rest for awhile? I don’t mind some settings being “all the merrier” but I don’t want to be as go with the flow. I’m logical and think “If I have a bbq at my house I don’t feel comfortable inviting brand new people” i guess that’s something I’d consider in my late teens, but not at 30.
Thanks for any advice.