Post # 1
I feel like the only person in the world who would get so worried over something like this, so I feel a little silly. (Also sorry if there are any weird typos; iPad has a mind of its own).
This weekend Darling Husband and i are meeting 2 of my guy friends from high school whom I haven’t seen in about 10 years. I am really excited. DH and I moved to a new area not long ago and I haven’t really made ANY friends, so imagine how excited I was when I got back in touch with these guys and realized they live near me. Also, one of the guys is bringing his girlfriend…we don’t know each other but we have talked on Facebook a little and she seems really cool…i really really hope we hit it off.
haha I know I sound weird and desperate but I’m quite nervous…for these reasons:
1. I’ve changed significantly since we last saw one another. I’ve gained quite a bit of weight and I’m so much more quiet and reserved. I know this doesn’t really matter but I’m sure they will at least notice.
2. Darling Husband doesn’t know them at all, so how do I make sure he doesn’t feel left out? I’m not sure he has much in common with them, but we’ll see. Darling Husband is pretty shy and so am I, what if we all have NOTHING to talk about?
3. I’m afraid my expectations are too high since I’m so desperate to make friends. Hope I don’t make a fool of myself. :p
any suggestions on not being so incredibly socially awkward?
Post # 4
@Miss Sorbet: I have the exact same concerns whenever I see someone from my past. And I’ll be honest, my nerves come mostly from the weight I’ve gained. So a big, big part of the problems I have with the wedding is about seeing my grandparents, whom I haven’t seen in ten years and, oh, about 100 pounds. And friends I haven’t seen in as little as 15 months but still a good amount of weight (I have seriously ballooned up since April when I quit my job, it’s awful). So I definitely get the nervousness, I really do! I’m not friends with anyone from high school anymore, but you’re definitely braver than I as I would not reconnect with any of them in person for exactly my issues with my weight. It’s stupid and sad, but people are so judgmental and I always assume the worst, even if I myself wouldn’t think twice if someone showed up at twice the size I saw them last.
Unfortunately, I’m not the person to give advice — clearly! If I were to channel my mom, though, I’d say to take a deep breath and think about how much fun you’ll have. You’re worried about your husband feeling left out, but I don’t think that’s something to worry about. You and your friends will have old stories to tell, and your husband and you will have new stories to counter the old — about how much you’ve changed, about how you would have reacted in X situation if you were still like you were in high school, etc. Plus the girlfriend is another tie to current reality as opposed to the past. I think that it’s actually a really good mix for creating a new dynamic and building on the past, rather than living in it (which is what happens with a lot of people when they reconnect and have nothing in common but what used to be). You’re all in good places, it seems, so I think there’s a really, really good chance that you’ll all just see each other and nobody will really think twice about any of it.