- 3 years ago
Regular bee going on anon, since I have IRL friends and family aware of my other account. Anyway, my SO (36M) and I (35F) have been dating since last June, and due to her being in college and spending the majority of her breaks with her mother, I’ll be meeting his daughter, let’s call her A, for the first time in February, when she’ll be visiting for a week. I am terrified.
According to SO and mutual friends who know A, she’s a very sweet, very polite kid, and isn’t likely to act out or be a brat, which is relieving. But she and SO are very close, and she’s a bit of a ‘daddy’s girl,’ so it’s a kind of up in the air on how things will play out. A is the most important person in SO’s life, and I want us to get along for his sake. We also would like to be married and TTC by this time next year, and personally, I do want to have a good relationship with my step daughter, and I want any of our future child(ren) to have their sister in their life.
Has anyone had any experience meeting the adult/teenage children of their partner? Has anyone been the child in this situation? I’d love to hear some advice and tips, or stories. Is one on one time, like a lunch out, a good idea, or should I try to make sure SO’s around when we interact? I don’t want to be her new mommy, or anything, but should I act more like adult or be more relaxed? Is a gift, or taking her shopping, too much or a good impression? Anything would be helpful!