Post # 1
So, I’ve never done the official “meet the parents” thing in a relationship. With my ex, we were friends before we dated so I knew his parents already in a friendly fashion. And all my boyfriends in high school never got to a point where we really met each other’s parents.
My new boyfriend’s parents live in Chicago, but 2 weeks from now his mom is coming to help him pack his stuff up for the move to CA and we’re going to have dinner together. I’m really nervous because at first, my ex’s mother HATED me so I’m really anxious about another situation like that (her reasoning was mostly based on him being her baby and me his first girlfriend, after the first couple of years she warmed up to me and we ended up having a really great relationship).
Any advice? I know what I’m going to wear already, and I’m generally really good with people – I’m just afraid because I really want his parents to like me and worried if they don’t that will majorly impact our relationship.
Post # 3
Meeting the parents for the first time can be so nerve wracking. You want to make a great first impression, but stressing out about it can make you so anxious that you may fail to be yourself, which is the most important part.
Do you know much about them? I’d ask your SO for a briefing on what they’re like and if they have hobbies or jobs they’re passionate about. Then you can do a little research beforehand and at least have a few conversation topics in mind. When I meet new people, I typically ask them a lot of questions about themselves and their interests. People love to talk about themselves, and this shows that you’re interested in learning about them.
Oh, and be polite and make sure to thank them for dinner if they pay. (I know this may be a given, but you’d be surprised how often people forget their basic manners).
Post # 4
Just be yourself. If you try to be someone you’re not or you try to hard, eventually they will find out, especially if this moves into a very seriously relationship where you guys get engaged or whatever. Be polite, ask questions, and like the PP said find out some things that his mom likes or does for fun so you have something to talk about.