- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I just wanted to say, because I feel releived and somewhat humorous of this.
We had one of our meetings with our pastor the other day. We discussed things we wished we would change about the other person. Nothing we didn’t know, just insecurity issues and his lack of care toward the bills and my overbearing stress when it comes to bills. Things that typically balance eachother out (as he’s gotten more mature when it comes to bills and I’ve learned to relax quite a bit and not sweat the small stuff)
So anyways, my fiance brings up my jealousy. Something I’ve been really working on but sometimes is impossible. We live in a small town where we tend to run into his ex’s quite a bit. No big deal until they grab his hand and pull him away, or until I have to sit through listening to them rave about their past relationships. But I admit and have been working on not getting upset with him at what they say or do as he can’t control them.
So my Fiance brings up the instance where we were out and he went to use the restroom. I was standing outside waiting for him and apparently his ex was out on the patio. I learned this from her. She knew we were together and this is just 6 days after we were engaged and telling all our friends about it at this place. Anyways, so she starts talking entirely too loudly (surely so I would over hear) that he and her used to date. His parents absolutely “adore” her and wished they’d have stayed together when they broke up etc. I got upset and I don’t deny that I shouldn’t have taken it out on him that night, and have apologized many times. But he didn’t see why I was upset in the first place.
So we talk to our pastor about this instance and I explain what happened to him and he says “Wow! I’d be really mad too, if my wifes ex was standing there talking about their past relationship and how her parents loved him, it’d make me angry.” and I could see it just click with my fiance. In the car on the way home he admitted I had a right to be upset and he was sorry that happened. Of course I’m not mad at him over it, I just wanted him to see that just because it was in the past before he met me, doesn’t mean it’s unreasonable for me to be hurt by it at times.
Anyways, so yeah, these meetings with the pastor is a great thing!