Post # 1
I’ve met with my FH pastor twice now and we are going back again today and i swear the last two time he’s made gritty remarks abt me not being a virgin! I’m like dude we’ve been together for 9 freakin’ years get over it. i feel like he’s gonna keep draggin this on… 🙁
Has anyone had any weird expierence with their officiant?
Post # 3
Oh that would bug me. Hopefully he’ll drop it the subject.
Post # 4
So, he’s making remarks about YOU? what about your FI?? You didn’t have sex alone… Not that I’m saying it’s ok for him to belittle you for your choices, but it’s unfair to make you out to be the only one in the wrong.
Post # 5
That would be why we ditched our original officiant. I swear I had never heard the word “fornication” so many times in my life, lol.
That and the fact that he said because my dad is catholic he’s just religious not a christian… Talk about making someone verrry angry…
Post # 6
@mrsawesome09: That what i told FH today, that he acts like i’m the only one that did anything worng here and in reality it was both of us so why not get on him (it would probably bug me a little less if we both got outed every time). Its really unfair that men get the pass in this dudes eye and the girl gets held to a much higher standard!
Post # 7
So, how’d it go? Better this time, I hope! =)
Post # 8
Wow, that’s awkward and annoying! When we told our rabbi we lived together, he just said that he’d actually rather us do that now a days b/c it helps you get to know someone and make sure you’re ok with them!
Post # 9
I have seen so many stories of officiants making snippy remarks or even refusing to officiate based on the couple’s having lived together. Really now, wouldn’t you think that if people were living together, an officiant who disapproved would want to correct the situation by having them get married?
And in your case, putting the blame on you but not your Fiance makes no sense at all.