(Closed) Meeting with the officiant!

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Last Thursday we had our first "we’re looking for an officiant meeting."  Here’s what I wish I had known going in:


  • Run it like a meeting.  I’m crazy enough that I might even consider an agenda, at least for you and your Fiance before the meeting, if not actually when you sit down with your guy. 
  • Your officiant needs to know who you are, what both of your backgrounds are, why you are getting married and what you want reflected in the ceremony.  (i.e. you were raised with some religion, your Fiance wasn’t.  You want to bridge that gap by having a only slightly religious ceremony.)
  • What do you want the ceremony to look like: how long is it, # of readings, any special rituals, unity candles, sand vases, jumping the broom, etc.
  • Who are the VIPS you want represented in your ceremony.  Are they readers?  is it mentioning family who couldn’t travel/late grandparents, etc?

Good luck!  I hope it goes well.


Post # 4
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I second the suggestion to be over-prepared. You can’t really count on your officiant to take the lead, especially if there are things you and your Fiance need to get straight.The reason I say ove-prepared is that you’ll want to know what kinds of things can go in the ceremony and bring up any that are appealing to you. 

Take a look at some sample cereomonies and decide together what you two want to include. I used the book suggested by several bees — The Wedding Ceremony Planner (Link from Mrs. Petunia) and even if you don’t use the book to write your ceremony you can get a really helpful breakdown of the segments of the ceremony from that post. 

Just be sure to be yourselves, too, so that the officiant gets a good idea of you two as a couple, and be really honest about what you want from him and the ceremony. Good luck!

Post # 6
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Wow thanks for asking this question…we’re meeting with ours next month and I’m CLUELESS…now I better start making a list!!!  Thanks for the input!

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