Meeting with the Pastor (gulp!)

posted 6 years ago in Christian
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It sounds like it’s probably just a nice meeting.  Not that you should quote me on this, but sometimes these meetings might not be of the religious counseling type.  Is the Paster also nondenominational or primarily Christian?  

A lot of pastors are very open to marrying couples who are religious and nonreligious.  Usually they like to get to know a couple, learn a little bit more about the story of your two, especially if they will prepare a speech for your ceremony.  I don’t think you could go wrong.  Of course, if you’re a pastor marring people you would want to know if their intentions are pure, if they seem ready etc.  Just so all parties feel right about it 🙂

I hope it turns out LOVELY 🙂 

~Karlee

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh my gosh, this was me 2 weeks ago! I actually wrote a post about it before we went. Your situation might be different, but our pastor was wayyy cooler than I anticipated! He asked us about what he envisioned for a ceremony and that was it. I told him I didn’t want a super religious ceremony and he said “so not churchy?” and I said yes. He said no problem at all, it’s your wedding! I was RELIEVED. He did, however, want us to do counseling. My Fiance and I live together as well, as he knows this. We didn’t go over about what the counseling will entail (aside from premaritial) but i’m really hoping it will focus on OUR relationship, not our relationship with God.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ah I was so nervous the first time too! My pastor seems kind of cold and not very receptive but once we were alone with him it was great. He basically told us what the premarital process would entail. We will be meeting twice more before the wedding. We also had to separate And each fill out a 100-question survey on different issues that may arise in a marriage, such as raising children, finances, etc . If he finds that we disagree on anything major, it will be part of our premarital counseling with him. My best advice is to try to stay calm and to be honest. I don’t think lying to a priest makes for very good karma 😉

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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My pastor didn’t ask us anything other than how we met and what we wanted in our ceremony. It was easy and not at all scary!

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Blushing bee

Emireeee what happened?  Your topic is exactly my situation right now!

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