Post # 1
Hi Bees, tonight my Fiance and I are meeting with the priest for the 1st time. I’m a little bit anxious and nervous, and wondering if anyone can give me some insight on what will be done tonight? What questions might be asked?
Obviously, we will answer all questions truthfully, but I am curious as to how in depth he will go, (pre marital sex, living together, all other topics)
Thanks everyone 🙂
Post # 3
They’re very mean and they call all your ex boyfriends….
hehe jk!! It’s fine they usually just make sure you’ve never been married, tell you what paperwork they need from you, help you pick a date, make sure you’re both Catholic and figure out if there’s any little obstacles to work through before the wedding for example some churches require both people be confirmed. They also make sure there are no impediments like one person being forced into marriage. It’s ok if one person is being deployed or if you’re pregnant, they just want to make sure that’s not the only reason you’re getting married. He’ll also explain to you what you’ll be doing in upcoming meetings.
They will also give you an awesome book to choose the readings from and talk to you about the different types of masses.
I’ve heard some priests ask about your living situation and sex, ours didn’t. He knows we live together and the topic of sex came up more during pre cana than anything.
Don’t worry!! The mass is pretty fun to plan.
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Post # 5
@Hollymarieee: We just met with our priest for the first time two weeks ago! I was also SUPER nervous, particularly bc I was afraid of awkward questions (we live together and Fiance is Protestant so these things made me particularly nervous). Basically we exchanged pleasantries, and then he told us about the fees and rules of the church, asked us if we were going to have him officiate or not, gave us a packet of information about all the documentation we’re going to have to collect in order to get the church to marry us.
He then talked to each one of us individually. He asked us for our addresses (neither one of us lied and he never mentioned the fact that we gave him the same address), about our religious background, if we believed that this marriage was for life, if we planned on having a family and if we had considered what religion to raise them. He asked us if we were related (haha…gross) and if we were getting married of our own free will. And that was basically it. Nothing too awkward, and pretty painless really especially after the mess I had built up in my head.
Post # 6
I posted the same question last week lol
We met our Priest for the first time last week. I came prepared with questions on what we are allowed to do and not, etc. He gaves us a envelope with information about photography, videos, about the mariage classes. He asked us for our ID for him to fill out the paperwork. When we told him that we live together, he didn’t say anything negative about it, he just said ok.
Next Sunday, we are going to mass and he will be introducing us to the parish with the other couples getting married next year. We then start our classes on Oct 11th for 2 months.
Then 2 months before the wedding, we go back and meet with him and we must bring our certificates of baptism to him, our marriage license and he will then ask us questions (I think) and we review what needs to be done for the wedding.
This is my experience, hopefully it will help you a bit.
Post # 7
@littlegraykitten: Thank You! I feel a little less nervous now 🙂
@couawilou: Thanks for sharing, definitely helpful 🙂
Post # 8
We’ve met with two priests, and neither asked about sex. We did have to check a box on the Foccus that said we lived together, but that was it.
Post # 9
@Hollymarieee: Hi date twin!
Thanks for posting this. Good to know these things ahead of time.
In my case, Fiance is not Catholic but my uncle (a Roman Catholic priest) said as long as we agree that we want to raise our future children as Catholics then the church has no problem with it. It’s just an extra form to fill out.
Post # 10
@babylou: Thanks 🙂
@MapleMoose: yayy another 09/01/12 bride! 🙂 thank you!
Post # 11
@Moja Milosc: wow I love your response.. all other responses I’ve read or heard about meeting the priests sound so intimidating and people make it seems as if it’s nearly impossible to have a catholic wedding.. meeting with our priest on october 26th & I honestly cannot wait! I want to have a set date already so that I can plan accordingly even tho I already found my wedding dress but I’m glad I did since they take forever to be ready!!! i have it on here as jan. 7th but that was just me being optimistic haha!!