Post # 1
So recently Fiance made a really big step towards making our December elopement happen and is working 14 hour shifts six days a week (we work similar hours in very different fields) so that I can continue to pay off our debt and we can still have the wedding we wanted. So exciting!
But for some time now I’ve been worried about my choice of wedding dress (Maggie Sottero- Georgina), because I picked it for our big wedding and mostly because it made my mother-in-law happy. Don’t get me wrong at the time I wanted it too! But now it seems kind of ridiculous (and impractical) for a winter elopement in the mountains.
The back of my invoice says that I have 10 days from the day the dress arrives (the end of this month) to exchange it for a sample dress of equal or lesser value. My worry is that if I do this I (a) will have a heck of a time finding an $1800 sample dress and (b) will seem like a crazy person changing my mind about my dress at this point. I just feel like I looked better in some of the simpler dresses earlier on than the elaborate one I chose.
What should I do Bees, should I just go with the Maggie I ordered, or should I think about asking to see other dresses? Below is the dress I chose and the one I feel looks better on me that I did not buy respectively. Thanks for honest opinions!
Post # 3
@FutureJessicaMcB: Gosh, I just don’t love the original dress on you, the neckline it sitting a little funny – but I assume that this is something that can be fixed in alterations? I do think that #2 looks great on you, could you go with that?
Post # 4
I really like the neckline and the fit of the second one. Do you have any other pictures of the first one? It could be the picture throwing me off cause it looks pulled up/out on the right and uneven. But from these two pictures… I like the second one more.
Post # 5
I like the second one a lot more. It looks gorgeous
Post # 6
I’d be surprised if you couldn’t find an $1800 sample. I would look at the dresses that normally come in around $1000-$1500. That, with the sample discount, will leave plenty of time for alterations.
You could also check out J Crew and The Limited, or white house black market. All of those should have dresses within your range, though I’m not sure if you’ll find a style that works better.
FWIW, I think the dress you chose is very pretty. Get a nice wrap, and it will be perfect for a mountain wedding. 🙂
ETA: Can you tell us what you like about the second dress, and what makes it fit your new plan better?
Post # 7
Something about the fit of dress #1 is off. As is I like dress #2 better and it does seem a little more winter appropriate to me. Can you use the 1800 towards a veil or accessories?
Post # 8
Thanks for your input all! I’m glad I’m not crazy thinking that dress #2 (the dress I did not buy) looks better. Unfortunately it’s prviate label at another bridal salon, so I can’t exchange for it. I’m KICKING myself for not buying it as it was only $400 (my mom had to tell me how much she hated it, so I got turned off of buying it at the time).
Here’s another picture of the dress I did buy. Should I seriously consider asking for an exchange? Do you think it happens often enough for them not to think I’m being difficult?
Post # 9
I wish. I only get the value of my order towards another wedding dress and I don’t think I get any of the difference if I choose a dress worth less than the original.
Post # 10
@FutureJessicaMcB: I wouldnt care or worry about what they think about being difficult or not. What matters at the end of the day is you loving your dress. Could you maybe try to sell the credit to the store to another bride and be free to buy the other one you love?
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
the dress you bought is very pretty.. I love the lace and the details and don’t think at all that it is too much for a winter elopement. However.. I don’t think the dress fits you well.. it doesnt flatter your midsection and the way the dress fits on the top is just wonky. If alterations can make the dress fit you well (like the second pic) , I would say just keep it! Make sure you can sweetheart the neckline though! It really flatters your body!
Post # 12
You could try to sell the current dress, and even if you don’t make the full amount back, you can put the money towards dress #2 at the other salon!
Post # 13
I honestly think your first dress has potential. Would you be able to alter the neckline into something more like what you wanted? If not, I’m willing to bet you can find a sample similar to the private label dress you didn’t get. Don’t stress over last minute alterations. I picked up my dress two days before my wedding after they rushed the alterations… those ladies are genuises! Don’t be too concerned with what anyone thinks… you want to feel confident and that is not asking too much. 🙂
Post # 14
Check with the salon about an exchange. It sounds like you aren’t happy with the dress, although it is pretty in my opinion. Since you said it’s a Maggie, there are some Maggie dresses that are similiar to the one you posted that you said you liked better. Check out ‘Sylvia’, ‘Aubina’, “Bianca’, ‘Denise’, ‘Harriet’ and ‘Gwyneth’.
Post # 15
To be honest, I like the 2nd dress better on you. It flatters your figure better, IMO.
This is going to be your wedding day. Like pinkshoes said, don’t worry about saving the bridal salon a little bit of work. Their job is to make you happy. After all, you’re spending enough money there.
Post # 16
I honestly do like the second one better on you. I think it’s more flattering. I am just not crazy about the first dress at all on you and hate that you got pressured into that one! I totally get where you’re coming from though about not wanting to lose the money you paid by exchanging it for a sample dress that will more than likely be less expensive. But it’s your one and only wedding so go with a dress that makes you feel the best!!