Post # 1
So… I’m a white chick…like pasty white.
But I’ve always loved and admired the look of mehndi, and am thinking about having it done on my palms or my feet and ankles for the wedding. Its also slightly symbolic as our first trip together was to Morocco, where I had my hands done.
I’d love to see pictures if any of you have had mehndi done but wore a more tradiational “American” white/ivory gown?
My Indian friends have assured me it would not be offensive in any way, but they are pretty secular, so if you have different feelings about it, I’d love to know.
Post # 3
@mandypop: I am indian, and while I don’t think it is offensive in any way…and you are prob embracing the culture rather than exploiting it… BUT if I saw an obviously non indian, not marrying an indian guy/girl, not having an indian wedding, not getting married in india… I would think it was pretty strange. The term “poser” comes to mind…. Sorry to say, but I am just being completely honest. You have nothing to do with the culture… do you really want to look at your pictures for the rest of your life and see mahendi? Have to answer questions about why you have it? Personally, I don’t like the look of mahendi with white wedding dresses…….. I am not even doing it! I am however, having a mahendi artist at my bridal shower…. you think maybe you would have a mahendi shower instead…or like an indian theme/arabian nights themed shower?
Post # 4
ugh… I’m Indian too and I kinda have mixed feelings about it.
I do think it can look absolutely stunning with a white dress – one of my best friends did this and she is pale. This girl however is Indian and just wore the white dress to her reception. But I have to half agree with @MrsNeutrino: it is kinda “poser-ish” to do full on mendhi especially if there are no other Indian elements in your wedding.
I went and stalked your posts to find pics of your dress – maybe an option would be to do just your feet? That way it can make for a few awesome pics and memories without being a distraction and will prevent people from asking “what is on your hands?” when they look at your pics.
Just a word of advice if you do choose to go with the mendhi – do a trial run! The stain takes differently to different skin types. My mendhi barely stays on unless I do some serious sugar watering and wear cling wrap to bed especially if you want a nice dark rich colour.
Post # 5
oooh! Fellow mendhi-loving white chick here. I get that it’s symbolic to you and I LOVE the feet-only idea. I agree that you’d have a lot of explaining to do if it were on your hands and it’s not part of your daily lives.
Post # 6
Hmm, I don’t know if I will be of much help but I am white – extremely white, like Irish white lol and I am having Mehndi done for my first ceremony in April.
I am having 2 ceremonies, the first is a traditional Pakistani/Indian style wedding (my fiance is Pakistani) in April and then an English style wedding in September.
So whilst I will be a white girl with Mehndi, I won’t be in a white/ivory gown until September, by which time the Mehndi will have worn off as it only lasts about a month or less. I will be in a maroon and turquoise Lehengha when I have my Mehndi so even if I uploaded pics it wouldn’t be the look you were thinking of.
I wouldn’t have thought it would be offensive to have this done – maybe I could ask my future in laws about this. I do know, however, that my mother was adament I wasn’t to have it for the English wedding because according to her “it will ruin all the photo’s and everyone will think you’ve had tattoos” lol which, believe it or not, is part of the reason we’re having these ceremonies so far apart :/
If it’s something that is symbolic and meaningful to you then I don’t see why you shouldn’t have it on your wedding day – I would think the fact it’s your wedding day is a good enough excuse 😀
Post # 7
I have to agree with the others. Although I’m getting my mehndi done and wearing a white dress at my reception, I am marrying an Indian and having a traditional Indian ceremony. Otherwise, I would find it odd. It’s like having a money dance when it’s not in your culture to do so.
Post # 8
Thanks for the thoughts ladies!
I’m liking the foot idea. And definitely will do a trial, fortunately through a friend of a friend so it will be affordable. The more orange-toned kind barely shows on my skin, so finding the right tone is certainly important.