@serendipity9.8: Oh my. First of all, although it won’t really help, (((HUGS))).
I have not been in your exact situation, but I’ve certainly been extremely stressed, especially the week before my wedding, and, I agree, it’s not fun at all. I wish I/we could help you in some way, but, unfortunately, all we can do is listen to your heart, care about you, sympathize with you, and try to offer you some words of comfort or advice.
As someone who tried to do WAY too much before my own wedding (my house was on the market and had to be perfect and show-ready at all times; I planned nearly every detail of my wedding myself, since my then-FI lived in another state and my mom lived five hours away; and I had a demanding job and only took off two days before my wedding) and who, for whatever reason thought it would be a good idea to have a semi-destination wedding, requiring me to make a three-hour round trip to my venue from my town on the day before the wedding for the rehearsal and on the day of my wedding, while having all kinds of salon appointments in MY TOWN on both of those days, and whose car suddenly would not start on the day before my wedding, requiring me to call both AAA and a rental-car company just so that I could make it to my own rehearsal in the other city, I definitely can sympathize with you in a case where time is closing in, and you feel as if you cannot possibly do all that you need to do.
The only words of advice I can offer you are, to the best of your ability, try to get some rest when you can. I ended up getting very little sleep for the three or four days before my wedding (maybe three hours the day of my wedding, as I was up until the wee hours finishing packing for my honeymoon), and I started to get sick on my wedding day and was sick (sore throat, swollen glands, runny nose, aches), during the first part of my honeymoon. To the extent that you can get some sleep, even if you have to give up something that you otherwise wanted to do, please try to do it. You don’t want to be sick on your wedding day or on your honeymoon.
Also, to the extent that you can try to force yourself to slow down enough to enjoy the special moments that will happen during the next week, please try to do that. Because I ended up being hours late for my salon appointments and had to deal with getting a rental car, etc., and I barely made it to my rehearsal, I was in a pretty stressed-out state about everything by the time I arrived at my venue, and I didn’t really get to enjoy my rehearsal or interacting with wonderful people whom I rarely see and who traveled from other states to be part of our bridal party.
Also, the restaurant for our rehearsal dinner completely changed what they had planned to do for us, and I nearly had a meltdown at my rehearsal dinner, which ended up not being held in the front of the restaurant as previously arranged but instead ended up taking place in a long line of banquette seating in front of the kitchen and along the area leading to the restrooms. It was SO not what I had envisioned, and I was so upset and stressed out about that that I almost missed interacting with my friends and family at the dinner. (As an aside, I should note that I am so grateful to and thankful for two wonderful, precious, Godly women in my life who spoke words of wisdom to me at that moment so that I was able to embrace what was, and try go with the flow, despite my disappointment.)
Finally, because of all sorts of things, some of which I’ve already mentioned, including the long distance between my salon and my venue — and, because of very heavy, holiday weekend traffic — I was more than an hour late to my venue on the day of the wedding, and we didn’t have the opportunity to take many of our pictures prior to our ceremony as we had planned. As a result, Darling Husband and I ended up missing our entire cocktail hour and a large part of our own reception having pics taken, most of which did not even turn out well. We never even ended up having the opportunity to greet or say goodbye to the majority of our guests.
I was utterly devastated that the big events for which I had spent a lifetime waiting and for which I had spent 11 months planning and preparing turned out to be so extremely stressful and rushed, and, as a result, disappointing. I don’t want to see that happen to any other brides, and that’s one of the reasons I joined WB after my wedding — to help others avoid what happened to me.
So, despite the extremely stressful, time-pressured situation in which you find yourself, I encourage you to do whatever you can to try to savor and enjoy the special moments that await you next week. You don’t want to miss them, and you don’t want to be sick during them.