Post # 1
Don’t take the bait. When you’re cruising on Facebook and notice that your SO’s ex-wife is friends with his aunt, don’t be like me and succumb to your massive curiousity and click on the ex-wife’s profile. Because it will make you very, very depressed to see those photos. The engagement photos from before (!?) she was divorced, the two weddings, the fancy honeymoon in Greece, and more than anything…the stepchild. The freaking beautiful little stepdaughter.
Ugh. Life is so unfair.
I can’t put into words why it makes me so upset. There are all these different emotions wrapped up in it. But I think the people here would understand what I mean better than anyone. It’s like…God, why does she get everything I could possibly ask for, and why of all people does MinMan have to deal with the consequences? Do you know what I mean?
Post # 3
I’m sorry that it seems like she has a great life. But just remember that you have a great guy and the two of you will build a great life together!
Post # 4
But YOU are a consequence! And a pretty awesome one! You can have all the fancy things you want but that doesnt reflect on what kind of a person she is (I am gathering not a great one) or how happy she is.
Also, I am a little confused. Whose stepdaughter is it? Her step daughter from her second marriage, or your soon to be step daughter?
Post # 5
he is YOUR significant other. she is the EX-wife. why should you be jealous of her? i actually don’t understand how life is being unfair to you.
Post # 6
I get what you mean. But, as other people have said, YOU have all your life with HIM to make great memories and build your life together. That’s what counts; she’s the past.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Easier said than done, but don’t be jealous. That would drive me nuts too if I saw something like that.
Just remember he loves you, you win, and all that jazz. :p
Post # 8
Because life isn’t about what we have. It’s about how much we love and how much of ourselves we give, willingly, no matter what the cost to ourselves.
You are far better off, darlin’. And she has lessons yet to learn.
Post # 9
*hugs* I do stuff like that ALL the time, and then regret it afterwards. Facebook and I are not really friends at the moment because I can’t stop having life envy! Good things come to those who wait, so they say, and I’m really hoping that’s true because we are being so good and waiting! I’m sure despite how awesome her life looks on the outside, she has serious issues on the inside. Plus, think of it this way, you got Minman! Ultimately, you have what is important. Love you girl! Keep your chin up!
Post # 10
🙁 I can totally relate. Fiance and I just had a long discussion about his ex and now I’m scared we’ll fall into those same patterns. I have to try and not let fear control me.
Post # 11
facebook sucks for relationships. im always finding out places my SO has been that he didnt tell me about via pictures of him on his friends profiles. then that just turns into a fight about why i dont trust him enough and why he lied to me about where he was. he hasnt done that in awhile but it still sucked when it happend before.
also i can totally relate to the ex thing. my guy’s ex had pictures of them together over a year after they broke up, but like the other ladys have said, hes YOURS, not hers.
Post # 12
You know what, be glad she was around before you. I’m sure he’s learned a lot from that relationship and it has made him the person he is now. Had he not had that prior experience or relationship yesterday, he may not be the man you love so much today!
Post # 13
I understand what you mean that’s why I never look. The first time I looked I saw that the Boy’s ex-wife had posted mean things about me (although we never met). I’m of the belief that if you go looking for something, you’ll likely find it.
That said, while it may appear that she has the wonderful life, there’s no way to know whether she’s really happy or whatever. And even if she is inexplicably happy try not to let it bother you since you, also, have amazing things in your life — like your wonderful love!
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Ugh, I know the feeling. 🙁
Facebook can be evil sometimes! Just try to not focus on it, like others have said you have an awesome guy and you’re going to be so happy together!
Post # 15
I totally understand – also keep in mind that sometimess people post stuff just to get the reaction you’re having. Having “great” things really isn’t about “things” at all. It’s all the things that people can’t see. I try to keep that in mind sometimes because I am somebody’s X-wife.
Post # 16
I hate facebook for those reasons!!!! I get so upset WAY to easy about that stuff.