(Closed) Memo to the hive…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that it seems like she has a great life.  But just remember that you have a great guy and the two of you will build a great life together!

Post # 4
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

But YOU are a consequence! And a pretty awesome one! You can have all the fancy things you want but that doesnt reflect on what kind of a person she is (I am gathering not a great one) or how happy she is.

Also, I am a little confused. Whose stepdaughter is it? Her step daughter from her second marriage, or your soon to be step daughter?

Post # 5
244 posts
Helper bee

he is YOUR significant other.  she is the EX-wife.  why should you be jealous of her?  i actually don’t understand how life is being unfair to you. 

Post # 6
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I get what you mean. But, as other people have said, YOU have all your life with HIM to make great memories and build your life together. That’s what counts; she’s the past.

Post # 7
4381 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Easier said than done, but don’t be jealous. That would drive me nuts too if I saw something like that.


Just remember he loves you, you win, and all that jazz. :p

Post # 8
52 posts
Worker bee

Because life isn’t about what we have. It’s about how much we love and how much of ourselves we give, willingly, no matter what the cost to ourselves.

You are far better off, darlin’.  And she has lessons yet to learn.

Post # 9
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*hugs* I do stuff like that ALL the time, and then regret it afterwards. Facebook and I are not really friends at the moment because I can’t stop having life envy! Good things come to those who wait, so they say, and I’m really hoping that’s true because we are being so good and waiting! I’m sure despite how awesome her life looks on the outside, she has serious issues on the inside. Plus, think of it this way, you got Minman! Ultimately, you have what is important. Love you girl! Keep your chin up!

Post # 10
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

🙁  I can totally relate.  Fiance and I just had a long discussion about his ex and now I’m scared we’ll fall into those same patterns. I have to try and not let fear control me.

Post # 11
865 posts
Busy bee

facebook sucks for relationships.  im always finding out places my SO has been that he didnt tell me about via pictures of him on his friends profiles.  then that just turns into a fight about why i dont trust him enough and why he lied to me about where he was.   he hasnt done that in awhile but it still sucked when it happend before.

also i can totally relate to the ex thing.  my guy’s ex had pictures of them together over a year after they broke up, but like the other ladys have said, hes YOURS, not hers.

Post # 12
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You know what, be glad she was around before you. I’m sure he’s learned a lot from that relationship and it has made him the person he is now. Had he not had that prior experience or relationship yesterday, he may not be the man you love so much today!

Post # 13
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I understand what you mean that’s why I never look. The first time I looked I saw that the Boy’s ex-wife had posted mean things about me (although we never met). I’m of the belief that if you go looking for something, you’ll likely find it.

That said, while it may appear that she has the wonderful life, there’s no way to know whether she’s really happy or whatever. And even if she is inexplicably happy try not to let it bother you since you, also, have amazing things in your life — like your wonderful love!


Post # 14
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Ugh, I know the feeling. 🙁 

Facebook can be evil sometimes! Just try to not focus on it, like others have said you have an awesome guy and you’re going to be so happy together!

Post # 15
1205 posts
Bumble bee

I totally understand – also keep in mind that sometimess people post stuff just to get the reaction you’re having.  Having “great” things really isn’t about “things” at all.  It’s all the things that people can’t see.  I try to keep that in mind sometimes because I am somebody’s X-wife.


Post # 16
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hate facebook for those reasons!!!! I get so upset WAY to easy about that stuff.

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