Post # 1
I’m trying to decide if I should include a memorial candle at the wedding in May. My fiancee and I have both lost some grandparents (both before we met and after we were together) and aunts/uncles (before we met). If I want to list the names of the individuals, how do I know who to list? For example, my grandfather passed away when my mom was a little girl, should I include him or just the one that I knew? Or should I just keep things simple and say “in remembrance of those who couldn’t be here” and not list anyone in particular’s names? Thanks!!
Post # 3
@MrsNSULA: I’d keep it simple and state the candle burning on x place is in memory of those who can not be here with us, or who have passed or something.
Post # 4
we had a memorial table at our reception with a candle, flowers, and a poem. underneath the poem we listed the names of those who have passed. we both have lost several family members, so it would have been a little ridiculous to list every single person, so we narrowed it down to those who we were closest to and we each chose 4 people. if you never knew your grandpa, i wouldn’t worry about including him. my dad’s father died way before i was born and my mom’s father was never around and i didn’t have much of a relationship with him, so i didn’t include either of them.
this is the poem we used if you’re interested:
I thought of you with love today
but that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday
and days before that too,
I think of you in silence
I often speak your name
All I have are memories
and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake
with which I’ll never part
God has you in His keeping
I have you in my heart.
Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touched our hearts.
May the lighting of this candle be a reminder of the memories we have shared and a representation of the everlasting impact you have made upon our lives.