Post # 61
Are you f-ing kidding me? Be mad at your boyfriend, not her. Also, it’s *wedding.
As immature as it is to confront her at a birthday party, I find it even more immature to refuse to attend events that she is at, especially since it sounds like she is at most family events. You forgave your boyfriend so put on your big girl pants and forgive her too.
Post # 62
MrsBeck : I’m not refusing to attend events where she is. I have no problem with attending all events. MY BOYFRIEND doesn’t want to attend ANY EVENT where she is.
She is also not family and is not at main family events. She is just at events where the groom of the *WEDDING* is because she is the best friend. It’s his birthday celebration herefore it’s guaranteed she will be there.
Post # 63
So you are committing to avoiding all events where this woman will be for the rest of your relationship? What will that solve? What if your boyfriend’s coworker makes a move on him? Should he stop going to work? Or if a neighbor starts to flirt will you move? I know the avoidance is your boyfriend’s idea, so I’m not blaming you for it, but surely you see why this is a very short-term strategy to dealing with these kind of issues.
Similarly, your idea of “marking your territory” doesn’t address the real problem. Why must your boyfriend be guarded? Are you going to be following him around giving various women “looks” to warn them off? Why can’t he just, I dunno, behave like a person in a commited relationship and ignore whatever comeons he gets?
Relationships shouldn’t be this hard. If you ever have to consider fighting someone to protect your relationship, it is probably is not a healthy relationship.
Post # 64
khopenyc : Are you sure his refusal to attend is completely innocent?
There are only two reasons I an think of that could be behind it:
1. He is scared you’re going to cause a scene and embarrass him in front of his loved ones.
2. There is more to this story and if he can keep you two apart then he won’t have to worry about you finding out what really happened.
The only other reason I can think of is if he just flatout hates his sister’s spouse and is using this as an excuse (but I’m reluctant to believe that because you’ve made no mention of anything like that in this thread).
Post # 65
sunnyland :Im sure its number 2 . As crazy as I am I will not go start no unessesary drama in front of family. I just think that is what COULD end up happening based on the pieces missing and he wants to avoid that.
Post # 66
khopenyc : “Again this is on my boyfriend but sometimes letting bitches know wassup ain’t hurt nobody. “