Memorial Day Weekend Dilema

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are you f-ing kidding me? Be mad at your boyfriend, not her. Also, it’s *wedding.

As immature as it is to confront her at a birthday party, I find it even more immature to refuse to attend events that she is at, especially since it sounds like she is at most family events. You forgave your boyfriend so put on your big girl pants and forgive her too.

 

Post # 63
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1228 posts
Bumble bee

So you are committing to avoiding all events where this woman will be for the rest of your relationship? What will that solve? What if your boyfriend’s coworker makes a move on him? Should he stop going to work? Or if a neighbor starts to flirt will you move? I know the avoidance is your boyfriend’s idea, so I’m not blaming you for it, but surely you see why this is a very short-term strategy to dealing with these kind of issues.

Similarly, your idea of “marking your territory” doesn’t address the real problem. Why must your boyfriend be guarded? Are you going to be following him around giving various women “looks” to warn them off? Why can’t he just, I dunno, behave like a person in a commited relationship and ignore whatever comeons he gets?

Relationships shouldn’t be this hard. If you ever have to consider fighting someone to protect your relationship, it is probably is not a healthy relationship.

Post # 64
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2014 posts
Buzzing bee

khopenyc : Are you sure his refusal to attend is completely innocent?

There are only two reasons I an think of that could be behind it:
1. He is scared you’re going to cause a scene and embarrass him in front of his loved ones.
2. There is more to this story and if he can keep you two apart then he won’t have to worry about you finding out what really happened.

The only other reason I can think of is if he just flatout hates his sister’s spouse and is using this as an excuse (but I’m reluctant to believe that because you’ve made no mention of anything like that in this thread).

Post # 66
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343 posts
Helper bee

khopenyc :  “Again this is on my boyfriend but sometimes letting bitches know wassup ain’t hurt nobody. “

love this 

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