Post # 1
Hi bees! My fiance’s dad passed away several years ago and his mom has hinted to me that it’s important to her that there’s a memorial section in our wedding program, which I completely agree with. I was going to list the family members with a nice saying, and then we lost one of our close friends in a motorcycle accident two weeks ago. I’m going to add him to the list, but his dad had passed away several years ago also (who we were very close to). Our friend’s mom and brother will be at the wedding, so since I’m putting our friend’s name, should I also put our friend’s father’s name? AND if I put his father’s name, I should add another of my bridesmaid fathers who passed away that I was close to (her family will be there as well). I just don’t know how much is too much. All of our families are very close and will all be there, so I’m having a hard time figuring out who to list (plus I’m kind of in a fog from dealing with our friend’s sudden death). Thanks so much for your help – sorry to ramble!
Also, if you have any other ideas for memorials at weddings (pictures, candles, etc), please list them! It’s a depressing thing for me to research right now so any ideas would be helpful! Since the death of our friend was just two weeks ago and our wedding is in two months, I don’t want to make his mom and brother overly emotional/upset either way. Thank you so much!
Post # 2
I think it is very nice to list them in the program. We are going to have a memorial chair. It will have a saying and pictures of everyone who isn’t able to be with us.
Post # 3
I’m doing a tri folded sheet of 8.5×11 paper for our programs, and on the back page we are listing our relatives that we want to honour. Very similar to Mrs Squid’s layout.
In Loving Memory
We want to honour those who are dear to our hearts who are no longer with us. We know that they are present in spirit.
List of names and relation to us.
Post # 4
I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. I think you could just list the friend and not his dad, but if you do list his dad I would list the bridesmaid’s dad as well.
You may also want to consider asking the mom and brother if they would like them included, or if that would upset them since the pain will still be pretty raw.
Post # 5
First and foremost I am truly sorry for you and your Fiance losses.
1. I think it is absolutely loving of you to want to list your losses on the program. However, I do feel that the only appropriate one is FI’s dad. Guests might feel overwhelmed with the sense of loss. You want them HAPPY!
2. Create a memory table/board with a sign that has a sweet saying. Along with the sign have photos of your loved ones that can only watch from Heaven. Include your friend here along with his dad and BMs dad and other family members.Ask other family members to bring photos to include those that may have been forgotten about like your grandmother’s mother and father. This depends on how much you want to do.
This will allow you and your guests to honor your loved ones without feeling like their at a funeral.