Post # 16
I find these to be morbid and depressing at weddings. Are you having programs? You could put a small note of remembrance in there, but anything more is going to be weird — like a PP said, walk past all the photos of your dead relatives to make you sad on your way to the bar or the dance floor.
Post # 17
My BF’s cousin had a memorial table at her wedding full of pictures. It was right next to the door for the reception so there was no way to avoid it. There were even a few kids from the groom’s side. I personally find memorial tables morbid. Not everyone who attends the wedding is familiar with the family and people are curious and will ask questions.
I say no picture displays at all. Say something during the ceremony for all who can’t be there. Get one of those photo miniatures you can pin to your bouquet to have those you personally lost with you and on your groom’s cuff links.
It’s a wedding not a memorial service.
Post # 18
luckyseville : I’m asking people if they want to include pictures. But mostly I wanted to keep it to our grandparents, then I realized just how much death has gone on in our famlies, its sad.
Along with the pictures I will have a frame that has the saying “remember me with smiles and laughter.” The entire quote, which I saw on LIttle House(no idea where it came from) goes :
“remember me with smiles and laughter, for that is how I will remember you all. If you can only remember me with tears, then don’t remember me at all.”
I’m of the opinion that people should remember those that have passed. I do not find these things morbid, but perhaps I am the wrong person to ask since I study the Victorian era and I have mourning jewlery and collect hair pieces from dead people I know nothing about along with photographs from strangers. I dislike how we mourn these days and much perfer some of the victorian customs.
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Post # 19
My Go sister passed away and it’s been very hard. She was only 27. I am reserving a chair that says in memory of and her name. I will place a bridesmaid bouquet in her seat.
Post # 20
slomotion : This was my FI’s reaction to a tee. His mother passed away about 2.5 years ago.