(Closed) memorial table for my grandparents? opinions please?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should honor your grandparents in any way that you feel comfortable–if they were an important part of your life, then they should be memorialized in some way on your special day. I think if you strategically place the table, then people will know what to do with it, you won’t have to announce anything, and maybe put a framed poem on the table, stating what you want done. Fiance grandmother is still living but has advanced Alzheimer’s so likely won’t be joining us–he is the first male grandchild to be getting married, so it’s hugely cultural to have the grandparents there. We are going to skype with her–she won’t at all understand what is going on, but most of the rest of the family hasn’t seen her in several months, and it will be nice for everyone to “see” her. For those that have already passed on, we are recognizing them on the back of the programs, and also will have a table set up at the reception with pictures and flower arrangements, my grandmother LOVED pink roses, so there will be a small arangement in her honor.

Post # 4
875 posts
Busy bee

I love the idea of the table, but I think that the candlelighting thing might be confusing…   If you want your relatives to be the ones to light the candles… then I would direct them to do so immediately entering the reception area…so that the candles are all lite when others notice the table.  (If it was a part of your ceremony, then having them light the candles at a different time would be okay, but at the reception, I think that unlit candles just looks like someone forgot to light them… and that would be like thinking that this table display was just a secondary thought… not an important rememberance. 

Post # 5
15 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you have a sign on the table directing people what to do, then the unlit candles are fine. I think it would be neat to let everyone light a candle in rememberance of someone if they would like, not just your side of the family. How many people total are coming to your wedding? You could get a couple different decorative cake plates (or make them! Let me know if you need a tutorial on how to make them) and place the votives on them, in addition to on the table, so there is varying levels of height, which would make for a more interesting table.

My FI’s mom died when he was 10, so we are doing a memorial table with an arrangement of sunflowers (her favorite flower) and a black & whote photo of her on her wedding day. We are also including b&w photos of my grandparents and his grandparents on their wedding days. I’m making his butonierre and putting a small charm on it with her photo and a treble clef music note (she was a musician and it is on her grave) so that way she can be with him during the whole ceremony and wedding.




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