Post # 1
I love love love my Fiance (obviously), but I realized today for the first time just how clueless they are at this wedding planning business. We’re getting married in less than 8 months. And he thinks I’m rushing as far as booking a church, venue and photographer. I have to keep reminding myself to be very patient he is SO well intentioned and wants this to be an enjoyable process, and it will be now that we have the major things accomplished but seriously I don’t think I’m rushing oh men.
Post # 3
You’re not rushing, but make sure to let him know that. Talk to him about the process and involve him, make him part of it,.
Post # 4
**bangs head on table** <— That is how clueless and frustrating my Fiance has been with our wedding planning.
We finally came to the perfect arrangement. I get to pick what ever I want and I pass any big decisions through before I purchase. So far so good!
Post # 5
Same thing happened with me when we first started planning. It took us up until recently to settle on things — there are a few things for which he is going to make the decisions (menswear, etc.) and for everything else, I’m narrowing it down to a few options and then presenting him with it. I know it’s really frustrating to be told that you’re rushing!
Post # 6
Ha! I have the exact same problem. I finally decided on the “if I bug you all in one whack with a list of questions, you won’t have me trying to sneak wedding questions into everyday conversation” tactic.
I told him that he could pick the restaurant, but we would both bring notepads, our list of guests, and we would not leave the restaurant until we’d made some major decisions.
For my fiance, it worked like a charm. We now have a seating plan, guest list, wedding colors, wedding party, timeline, ceremony location, table decorations, catering options, and cake design down. By the end of the meal, he looked like I’d shot him, but this morning, he just kept going on about how glad he was that we’d made so many decisions together the night before. Maybe this “rip off the bandaid” tactic could work for you?
Post # 7
LOL I love the rip of band-aid tactic! I think I made use that. Really now that we have the church, reception and photographer I think we’ll be good for a couple of months. I have a meeting with a florist in Feb and Fiance has already approved since it is a friend of his and the DJ is a friend of mine. I told him he is in charge of dressing himself and groomsmen and now he’s in charge of the cake. I have my dress and my bridesmaids can pick whatever dress they’d like as long as it is the same color.
Post # 8
Pssht mine just wants to know when, where, and what to wear.
AND… I like it this way!
I also live hundreds of miles away from my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaids… that’s the hard part for me. I’m sad that I don’t get to do this planning deal with them.
If I let my Fiance have his input, we would be in horrendous colors, have beer and nuts for a menu, there would be NO dancing, and we wouldn’t have a bridal party.
So, I take it as a small blessing that I have my whole say 🙂