(Closed) Men and Weddings

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Well to be honest my Darling Husband didn’t actually care about anything other than the food, which was fine with me. However, he did comment several times about it being “the bride’s day” or it was “my day” and that bothered me a bit.

Throughout the planning process I did all I could to reassure him that if he did have an opinion he was more than welcome to share it. I asked him constantly what he thought just in case.

Post # 4
Member
3697 posts
Sugar bee

It’s partly mainstream media/wedding culture, and also some local cultures have more that idea of “it’s the bride’s day,” “it’s all about the bride,” etc. Personally I find that poisonous, and I try to make a point of referring to “our” day and “our” wedding, and when people say something about “K


‘s wedding,” if I can do it gracefully I try to correct them: “It’s K


& D


‘s
wedding. I’m really trying to stay as far away as possible from that bridezilla stereotype,” or something else along those lines.

Just keep consulting him on stuff and saying, “It’s your wedding, too.” Some of it he maybe genuinely doesn’t care, but this opens the door for him to weigh in on things that do matter to him.

Post # 5
Member
478 posts
Helper bee

He thinks it’s the bride’s day, too, and seemingly embraces it because it means I have to do most of the work and he doesn’t have to do hardly anything!

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