(Closed) Men just don’t understand…

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

*sigh* I feel your pain.  We just bought our place in June, so we’re not exactly rolling around in cash, but I would like to start making it feel like home….slowly.  My big thing is that I want to decorate the kitchen–our cabinets have room to place things on top, and I’d like to do something to bring in some color and some interest so that it feels more homey, and less industrial (we live in an industrial loft).  Fiance does. not. get. it.  “Why would you put things on top of the cabinets, they’re hard to get to up there.”  “But honey, we wouldn’t be using them, they would be for decoration, so once they’re up we wouldn’t need to get to them.”  “Well then, I don’t see the point in doing this at all!”  Oi.  Men.  😉

Post # 4
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well have you tried explaining to him that you want a little more of your touch in the place to make it a home for both of you?

Post # 5
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Gah! Oh I know what you mean so well. Fiance would have been content to just pile our stuff into the apartment and let it be. I remember I bought some throw pillows for the couch and he asked me “why?” I don’t think guys have the homely gene, a place is comforable as long as there a place to sit. Luckily FI is pretty open to the idea of me decorating once we get a house, so long as it’s not totally against his taste (read: as long as I don’t paint it pink and fill it with unicorns).

Post # 6
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think once you start he’ll be totally into it.  Guys tend to be more visually oriented.  I had the same problem with re-doing our room (fresh paint, new curtains, new windows, new bedspread)… but once I started and got the ball rolling, he was quickly hooked.  I came home from work one night to find the final touches done!

Now he’s like, “This looks great!  Why didn’t we do this sooner?”

Post # 7
683 posts
Busy bee

I just started jamming home improvement down his throat…. now I don’t know whether he likes the shower curtain- or is scouring the internet to shut me up. It works!

Post # 9
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Men are comfortable on scooby doo sheets LOL.  I agree with the other ladies once you get started I’m sure he will love it 😉

Post # 10
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have to agree with Mrs. DG that guys do tend to be more visual. I say make the changes that you would like and he will understand once it is done. Hopefully, he wants to help in the process.

For the last 6 months, we have had moving boxes still in our bedroom causing so much clutter and quite frankly, a mess. I kept mentioning to the hubs how good it will feel once we organize a little more, so I was doing a little here and there. Well the past two days, he took over and organized it more. When I came home last night, all he kept saying was how he loved how the room looked. I have to say this was the first time in a while that I slept better.


Post # 11
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t even know why you had that convo with him!  Lol.  We don’t have a house but we have a large apartment and I was so over the college hand me downs and crap we’d collect from traveling that we just never put in a box, where they really belonged.  So, we were approaching a month that was filled with guests.  Almost every weekend family or friends were staying with us.  About a month before I said, “with all of our friends and family coming I decided I want to redecorate the apartment”.  He didn’t get why I wanted to, but he didn’t object.  His only request was no pink or purple- not a prob.  In the end he really liked how it looked, I changed every corner of this place!  Your hubby won’t understand but he’ll like the outcome, I swear. 

Post # 12
1045 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Do you think he’s worried about the $$ situation, and thinks that the changes you want are going to be expensive?  I can see how that might make him a little nervous and want to delay a bit, given his current job situation.  Or is he just being lazy, and doesn’t want to be the handyman?  🙂

I’m going to be ALL ABOUT the decorating/nesting once we move back to the US and buy a house.  I can’t wait!  So be sure to post back with lots of your ideas so all of us frustrated renters can live vicariously!

Post # 13
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh such a dude haha i think all guys who are manly are like eh whatev my Fiance didnt get to that point of wanting to decorate till a year or two ago.

Post # 14
1981 posts
Buzzing bee

Oh gosh, my Fiance is the same way. It’s funny though, once they start seeing how good the new stuff looks, it changes their minds pretty fast.

Also, I took him to the stores while furniture shopping and he got to look at the exact couches and tables… it helped him figure out how it would look and he got excited about it!

Post # 16
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

EJS. I hear you. My husband thinks it’s fine if it’s livable. Hence he wants to keep the Chandlier in the Dining Room that looks like it cam street out of 1985, even if he just bought it three years ago, he probably bought whatever was the cheapest and that threw out a lot of light since he used to study in the Dining Room.

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