Post # 1
Am I right in being pi55ed off or do I need to chill out?
All week i’ve been on holiday so wanting to organise stuff. We are getting our rings from the same place I got my e/ring as they give a discount. I’ve made countless phone calls, had images e mailed across, taken Fiance once to look at styles in another shop….he’s fairly uninterested. Days ago he agreed to come with me today to look at his final style choice of other rings so I could call up and order what we want. I’ll find this very hard to do once I’m back at work. He’s put it off until today and then, 1 hour ago, decides he doesn’t want to go and that he’s ‘nowhere near’ being ready to make a choice. Why? Because there’s sport on the TV he wants to watch. I’m actually not speaking to him now. I’m so furious. Worse still, he’s making out like i’m being ridiculous. Am i?
Sorry for the vent.
Post # 3
Just pick something for him–he’s made it perfectly clear that his ring design isn’t important to him. It’s not you, it’s not being married, it’s not wearing the ring–he just probably doesn’t really care what the thing looks like as long as it’s on his hand and you’re his wife. Fussing isn’t going to solve anything.
I wouldn’t say that you’re being ridiculous–he’s being kind of a jerk by blowing you off knowing that this is important to you. But I would say that it’s not really worth freaking out over–now you’re mad and he’s mad. If you end up going, he’s going to sulk. If you don’t go, you’re going to sulk. Nothing good is happening.
So get ready to leave and before you go, tell him that you’re picking out rings today and if he wants a say, he can come with you. Otherwise, you’re picking it out for him. Don’t get mad, get shit done. This is my motto.
Post # 4
You guys still have a lot of time to pick rings. I don’t think you should pressure him. It’s a big step & he’s telling you he’s not ready to decide. You can ask him WHY rather than being mad.
@zomgwut: I completely disagree. You should by no means pick his ring for him. He’s the one that will have to wear it for the rest of his life. It’s his choice.
Would it be possible for you 2 to go to the jewellery store seperately & still get the discount. I think that would make your life much easier.
Post # 5
Thank you you guys….I’ll go easier on him x
Post # 6
Pretty much the exact same thing happened with my Fiance yesterday. He doesn’t know what he wants yet, and while he’s been a little bit more agreeable about going in, we made a decision to go to the jeweler yesterday but he was tired and wanted to sleep longer. I told him it was perfectly okay, and I really do believe it’s okay, but I was annoyed in my head. I know it’s irrational but it’s like I got so excited about finally going to get this out of the way and then he flaked and blah.
But, I also know he really was tired. He’s been working hard lately, and I don’t want him to be under more pressure than necessary. In his mind, the wedding is 7 months away so what’s the big deal? And in my mind, the wedding is only 7 months away and there’s so much to do how can he not understand that we need to get things done ahhhhhh!
Post # 7
lol…yeah, that’s exactly it!!!
Post # 8
@ticatica: you are not being ridiculous at all! in fact he’s being emotionally manipulative. insist on going. he agreed to. turn the TV off, do whatever you need to do to get him out of there