Post # 1
My FH really wants to wear his wedding ring now, while we are enaged because he wants to show everyone that he is committed. I really love the idea of him wearing a ring now while we are engaged, but I’m hesitant of him wearing the ring we bought has his wedding ring while we are engaged.The only thing that makes me hesitant is because of tradtions, and silly labels, but it just feels weird to me if he wore his wedding ring now. We’ve been talking about getting silicone stand-in rings because we are really active outdoors and I think it would be a perfect stand-in ring for him to wear while we are engaged.
What are your thoughts on men’s engagement rings?
What are your thoughts on men wearing their wedding bands before the wedding? Am I just caught up on labels and sentiment or do others feel the same as I do?
Post # 2
khurm : I personally would not want my fiance to wear his ring before the wedding, and he doesn’t want to either. For some reason, I feel like it wouldn’t mean as much at the ceremony when we exchange rings. That may be ridiculous, but it’s just how I feel about it.
I do know other men that have worn their wedding rings through the engagement, I think it really just depends on personal preference. In my opinion, there’s no right or wrong way to do it.
Post # 3
I proposed to my fiancé and for that I bought a ring which he wears now. It wasn’t a very expensive ring, so it’s ok that he will stop wearing it once that wedding band gets on his finger in a few months.
Is that a solution maybe? You don’t necessarily have to propose back but you could get him a nice but inexpensive ring to wear?
Post # 4
It makes me sad that men are expected to buy a woman a ring and she gets to wear it and show off her new status as a Fiance but men arent allowed the same. I think if HE wants to wear it he should be able to. I like the idea of buying a separate band so he still has a “wedding band” to exchange at the wedding though.
Post # 5
When my husband and I were engaged I used to come home and catch him wearing his wedding ring around the house all the time haha. He snuck it out a few times as well, I think he just really loved the thought of being married so I thought it was sweet.
I think the silicone ring is a great idea – Then the actual wedding ring will still have the symbolic significance of being the marriage ring, but your FH can have something to represent the step you’ve already made.
Post # 6
My fiance wears his ring…it doesn’t bother me. I wear my wedding band as well. We’re super untraditional, though. We won’t exchange rings at our wedding, since we already wear them. When we sign the license we’ll feel more officially married, so that will be the most significant thing in our wedding for us to “feel” married. It definitely depends on what you want. I think if you’re going to have stand in rings for activities, it’s a good compromise for him to wear during the engagement.
Post # 7
This is a cultural thing. Where I am from men also wear engagement rings. I actually only you d it recently that it’s not a thing everywhere. A friend of mine got engaged in the UK and everyone was confused why he had a ring. Usually women get another ring in the wedding but man gets the same engagement ring and it has engamenent and wedding day engraved. Of course there are exceptions where a man wants two rings or they want a new one.
If you are not ok with him wearing the wedding ring, maybe get an engagement ring for him till you get married.
Post # 8
My honey has an engagement ring. It’s from the brand Embr. He loves it and loves to wear a ring symbolizing our engagement and commitment, too. I hope you get him one. It sounds like it means a lot to him 🙂
Post # 9
When we got engaged, my now husband started wearing a cheap stainless steel ring almost instantly. We never referred to it as an engagement ring, and it never bothered me. He liked wearing different colors to figure out what type of metal he wanted for his wedding band, and it all worked out.
*Shrug* I don’t really care either way.
Post # 10
We are both wearing our rings now, even though we will be married next month. I’m not having an e-ring and a wedding ring- just one ring. I also bought him a titanium ring on amazon to try out the size and width and he decided he likes it and just wants to use that one, which is fine by me. We’re not traditional either, and rings or no rings, we know we are committed to each other. I do like that he wants to wear a ring now.
Post # 11
khurm : my Fiance wears an engagement ring because we both decided that we thought it was a bit odd that I would have a symbol of our commitment and would be showing the world I was “taken” for want of a better phrase and he wouldn’t. So we got him a nice but cheap ring. Anytime anyone grabs my hand to look at my ring he shows his off. He loves it and loves that it shows he is committed to me too. Screw labels. Do what makes you happy.
Post # 12
I got my fiance an engagement ring. Originally I figured that he’d get a second, more expensive, one to be his wedding ring and he could wear whichever he felt like on a given day. But he really likes the engagement ring and has decided to keep it as his wedding ring. So he is going to wear it until the wedding day. In the morning he’ll take it off and put it in our nice little ring box for the ceremony and then I’ll give it back to him.
Post # 13
My fiance has been wearing his wedding band on a leather cord around his neck until the ceremony. It felt like a nice middle ground between wearing it and having nothing. We decided we didn’t want a “stand in” ring that he wouldn’t get to wear after he’s married, and he says he feels like he’s building up the meaning behind the wedding band by keeping it with him. Like he’s charging it with symbolism and letting it become a part of him 🙂
Post # 14
My husband doesn’t wear an an engagement or wedding, he h worn an 18k signet ring engraved with the first initial of his last name since we met. The ring is about 100 years old.
Post # 15
My bf said he wants one too and I’ve never heard of guys wearing one while engaged but have no issue with it. We plan on finding a cheap one he likes once he proposes and once married, he will wear the wedding ring and maybe the engagement ring on his right hand.