Men wearing engagement rings

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

After he proposed i took him shopping for his own ring. He loves it. I think it depends on the two of you what you prefer. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I bought my husband a ring when we were engaged he really wanted one and I didn’t like the idea of him wearing his wedding band before we were marrie. HEh now wears it as his right hand ring 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

In my country it’s custom that both man and woman get an engagement ring so I say why not? 🙂

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

When we were engaged my now-husband mentioned a few times that it would be nice to have an engagement ring for himself- since it is kind of a bummer that men don’t get fancy jewelry to show the world they’re about to get married too! I really regret not getting him something. Oh well, he’s quite happy with his wedding ring now!

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I couldn’t care less about what other people choose to do/wear on their fingers, but I will say that I’ll assume a guy is married if I see a wedding ring on his finger and will do a bit of a double-take if I find out he’s just engaged. But it would be a “Oh! That’s interesting!” kind of double-take and not a Judgey McJudgerson double-take.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I’m actually not getting a wedding band, my e-ring will be my only ring. So I think him wearing the band would be the exact same thing. I don’t think there’s any problem with it! 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I bought my fiance an inexpensive Tungsten band (about $40) so that he could wear an “engagement” ring too. He actually has chosen to wear it on his right hand instead of his left, as he doesn’t want to give the impression that he’s married already haha but he loves the idea of having a little reminder on his finger of our commitment to one another 🙂

We will get him a much fancier wedding band when the time comes. Not sure yet what he plans on doing with the other ring when that happens!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

In my culture engagement ring (which is actually the wedding ring) is worn on your right ring finger. You switch it to your left once you get married. When we were engaged we wore our wedding rings to our right hand. This might be an option for you.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

OP,  it sounded like you would prefer for your SO to not wear his wedding band before you are married. That would feel awkward for some. Sorry, if I misunderstood. I wanted to expound upon a compromise PPs had mentioned.

If he is happy to wear a ring, there’s lots of nice options for different price points, and styles (milgrained, hammered, woven etc.) if you can compromise it being a different ring from the intended wedding band. On the nice but affordable metal end, there’s stainless steel, titanium, and tungsten.

My Fiance, and I have worn rings for most of our years together to symbolize our commitment to each other, and to show we were “taken”. Fiance preciously wore a silver ring, and now has a cool tungsten ring I gifted to him. He loves the ring, and it’s a comfort fit. That’s popular because, it feels natural to many. Just something else to keep in mind. Anyway, there are a lot of options for your SO!

And, of course if he wants a fancier ring, there is sterling silver, palladium, white gold, and platinum. Aww, it warms my heart to hear about other bee’s partners wanting to wear rings to show commitment prior to being married. 🙂

Post # 25
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I got engaged a few months ago and My fiance said we should buy those siliscone QALO rings because we are pretty active. I was confused as to why he wanted to buy his so soon since we aren’t getting married for another year. I imagined he would just put it away until we were married but he ended up putting it on the day it came in the mail and hasn’t taken it off since. I thought it was a little odd but also super sweet. I don’t have a problem with it if he doesn’t! I like that he wants to show the world he’s committed to me. 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’d suggest getting him a cheap ring which he can wear on his ring finger, so it’s not his wedding band that he’s wearing and then once married he will wear his actual wedding band. We thought about doing the same, but since we’re having a pretty short engagement decided not to.

Post # 27
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Helper bee

I bought my H a cheap tungsten band after we got engaged. He wore that until we got married and for our wedding we bought a gold wedding band. 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

khurm :  I bought my Fiance a cheaper plainer ring to wear during our engagement and a nicer wedding band, he loves wearing the ring just as much as I love mine. I also love seeing the ring on his finger, it seems silly that men in the US don’t get to share in the “engaged” joy in the same way as women. People do automatically assume we are married,  when out and about, but I don’t mind. 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

khurm :  

Well I just want to say I think it’s sweet , not  to mention right and proper that all these guys want to show they are engaged.

Such  a lovely change from the recalcitrant , feetdragging,  ‘don’t push/nag/pressure me’ types in Waiting . And the ones who keep it in their knicker drawer for a year.  

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

D H and I both got silicone bands during our engagement. He wore his the whole time we were engaged, he actually wore it out  (he’s hard on things!) He now wear a his traditional wedding ring. But he really enjoyed having his own engagement ring! 

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